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writes:My wife of 1 1/2 years treats and speaks to me as though I am incompetent and unable to make the "right" decision. I am almost 62 years old and have managed to take of matters just fine all this time. My wife has a different and more stressful way of taking care of business, i.e. bill paying, phone calls, etc. It's getting very old being accused of not taking care of business when and how she feels like it should be done. I love her very much and pretty much everything else seems ok in our marriage, however, this as I stated before is getting quite old and slowly wearing on me...[Mod note: OP's age is very early 61] Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2014):
 I'd let her start doing it. I did that with my husband. He didn't like that I paid half the bills first of the month and the other half middle of the month (half the boss were due around the first and half in the middle/end of the month). He wanted everything paid on the 1st. However since the income was biweekly - paying them split made more sense ( to me at least) - As I do EVERYTHING else around the house, he is now in charge of the budgeting/paying bills. And I get peace and quiet.
Pick your battles. If she thinks she can do better, LET her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2014): My late husband would complain how I cooked meals and even how I washed and dried the dishes.
So I slowly slacked off and let him gradually take over the cooking and washing and drying of the dishes.
While he was busy being Mr. Perfect, I was happily busy pursuing my hobbies.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (21 November 2014):
 Well, Join the club! I had a stroke in '94 and ever since then SHE thinks I've got no brain. Oh well, I just decided to out live her to really piss her off.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2014):
 When my husband complains about how I handle things (I am 54 to his 41 and have been running my own home since age 21) I very nicely let him know that if he does not like the way I am doing a task he can take it over. OTHERWISE STFU!
guess who no longer complains about how I pay the bills, do the laundry or make dinner?
right. if she does not like how you do it... let her do it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 November 2014):
 Oh and I might add that years ago I criticized my husband lawn mowing technique...guess who's job it's been all these past years?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 November 2014):
Let her take care of the bill paying etc...gets her off your back and gives you some free time.
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