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writes:I am a young man married to a pretty lady who is my life and my one and only queen.She is more romantic than i am. For some time now we have been having a lot of problems in our relationship and i want to make her happy for the rest of our lives together. She just told me she is not happy anymore in our 4year relationship. I want to win her heart and love back. i also want to surprise her with something, maybe a romantic dinner or something to sweep her of her feet. I really love her and dont want to lose her.Please help me. What can i do to win her love and heart? Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 I agree you may need to look at your overall relationship and find out what she is unhappy about. A romantic gesture would be a nice distraction but may not make the problem go away. The most romantic thing you can do for her is to tell her that you want to make it work and dont want to lose her but you need to know how to do this, if you dont know what is broken you cant fix it. If you can get talking and its something you can resolve it wont hurt to be more romantic. Spell out I love you in rose petals on the pillow before she goes to bed, send her a letter through the post, send sexy love texts, make her heart shaped toast, buy flowers once in a while etc etc, a lot of women love this stuff and would love their hubbies to be more romantic. Dont do it all in one day though but once a month or so and always as a surprise. The most romantic thing hubbie did for me recently was when we took our kids for a walk on the beach and I walked off to a shop to get a cup of tea as it was freezing, he text me as soon as I was out of sight to tell me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, sounds silly as we are married but to me it meant the world. Good luck, fight for her x
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 That actually depends on whats going on... being very romantic on a one time basis versus working with whatever is making her feel she is not happy anymore might not be your best bet. Even though a romantic gesture will probably make her smile, trying to talk to her and let her know you want to make her happy in the long run will strengthen your relationship.
Various ideas:
1. Write down the 10 things you would do for her if she asked you to... things you don't like doing like walking the dog or scrubbing the bathtub. The obvious kick at the end is to tell her you would do anything to better your relationship and to see her smile again.
2. Buy a journal and write your memoirs of the two of you. Your best times together, better with pictures and give it to her in a romantic dinner made by you.
3. Take her to a special place for the two of you; where you met or proposed or said I love you for the first time and recreate what happened. Tell her those are the reasons you want to fight to earn her back.
4. Make a CD of the songs that tell the story of the two of you and play it for her. Explain how each song represents the love you have for her.
5. Make a Power Point presentation with pictures of the two of you. You can put music on it and write special things you have shared. You can also put it in auto so it loops without you doing something. Play it to her after a nice dinner.
Remember, all of these ideas might be great but they are just the beginning. You need to work hard to win her over for the second time around. Let whatever you do be the ice breaker for a conversation on what you need to do to make things better and what she needs to do to help.
Best of lucks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): I'm sure she knows this is what your now thinking, and she wants all of your attention. But stop for a minute and ask yourself who gives the most in this relationship? Who always drops what they are doing to help the other? If you can easily say her, then you do have a lot to make up for: flowers; dinner out; bubble baths; vacation trip (boat); breakfast in bed. Now if you say you do or your about even, then she will never be happy and your needs will never be met.
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