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writes:I will keep it short and sweet. I am between jobs right now and finding it hard to find one. Means I am around my wife a lot. A WHOLE lot. She doesn't drive so she relys on me to get her around too so bottom line is my wife is starting to get on my nerves. Sometimes I just want to play a game without my wife over my shoulder blah blah blah-ing me to death. Of course I love my wife and don't wont to hurt her feelings. Pretty much nothing I can do about it, but just wanted to get this off my chest. But if you have anything let me know. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, ok let's start like this. Female anon, you can't read apparently. I said I was between jobs and having trouble finding one. The implies I am looking for one. But I don't look for one 24 hours a day. It means I have a lot of down time. But I'm guessing you really don't care, you just wanted to bust balls which is why you logged in anonymously.Blonde30s, I appreciate your candor but not everyone in the world lives in or anywhere near walking distance to a town and not everywhere has buses or even cabs for that matter. But thanks.Everyone else, thanks for reading. My wife is one of those people who could spend 10 hours a day talking on the phone to all kinds of different people and still wants to talk about everything. She just is so social that she doesn't know how to be alone, even for a minute, in her own thoughts. Whatever it is she thinks about or talks to somebody about she feels it necessary to go and tell me and everyone else about it. She craves attention all the time. Don't get me wrong, I talk to her and listen to her and spend time with her a whole lot. I'm a good husband. Just sometimes I would like some time to do a few things on my own. But we talked about it and she is working on it. We love each other and that's all that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): Maybe you get on your wife nerves sitting about all day brooding and playing games when really you should be out there looking for work, maybe that's why she blah blah blahs at you..
Just a thought...
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Can't you just tell her you need a little space? It's perfetctly normal. When you get ready to play your game tell her, "Hey, I'm going to go into the living room, I need a little quiet time to myself to just unwind without thinking or talking for awhile. If she persists, just tell her all couples need their "ME" time here and there. Maybe she might enjoy pursuing a few things around the house while you have this time to yourself. She could read or surf the web. I hope she'll understand. It's really crucial to a healthy relationship.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (6 November 2012):
It’s only natural that when you spend this much time with some-one you’re going to notice all the little faults more and things will start to irritate you. The only thing to do is try and have a conversation with her about giving each other space. Instead of telling her that she’s starting to get on your nerves, think of something she might like to do in her alone time. You can then say that you think it’s important she has time to do that without you there, just as you should have some time to play games or whatever it is you do. Just try to agree some boundaries together and get her engaged in that process. It might be a bit awkward to get that conversation started but chances are, if you’re together the whole time, she’s probably got her own frustrations too.
I wish you all the very best.
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