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writes:Hell All, I am a 28yr old Male from Michigan, I shall call myself "Travis". I recently have gotton married to "Anne" she is 26. Before we married she stated that she is BI-Curious and would like to explore her curiosity. Well after being married for a short time she brought up the fact that she wanted to explore this curiousity with me and she began to research websites,chat forums and other means of meeting women who are also BI-Curious or Bi-sexual. We have talked about this and my only fear is that this women will be able to make love to her better than myself. I pride myself on makeing her feel loved and happy in bed and She also feels the same way about love making. She is very adamit about wanting to try a "date" with another women and feels that the women should be open to just meeting and seeing how things work out. Am I wrong to feel this way about another women being able to make love to my wife better then me? I dont feel as if she is cheating and we have discussed that if this women is better with Anne or if the women is better with me that we will share what she did to make things better if that is possiable. The other fear "Anne" has is that she will not preform well enough for the women in question but also wants to take a leap of faith and see what happens. What kind of advice can you offer us? Thank you in adavanceTravis Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 I gave some Frank Advice on threesomes, on this topic on youtube. See if you can track down the video. Here are some ground rules:
She is not to explore with any current friends or co-workers, as it could turn sour, and ruin your connections.
She probably WILL enjoy some of the sex better than when you are with her. That does not matter in terms of what she loves about you already.
Never send her to the home of a couple who are in the same situation as you. If you are not present, the girl-girl sex can turn into a threesome. Many couples set up single girls this way.
She needs to figure out if she wants her first time to be a threesome with you, or alone with another girl. If alone with another girl, do it at your place, with you just outside the home. This guarentees the other woman's guy does not try to slip in.
Whatever boundaries you guys set for dos and don't set them CLEARLY so there are no surprizes.
Try visiting a swingers club as a voyeur couple a few times, to get an idea of how things can progress slowly or escalate fast, and to learn how other couples in your situation have set up their rules.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): She married you and so made her choice!! You can't use the excuse of being 'bi-curious' to have sex with other people. Would it still be ok if you said you were 'other woman curious'? Would she support you in having sex with other women? I think not!!
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reader, AllieT2010 +, writes (21 August 2007):
 It's actually up to you if you want to help her with her curiousity. If you feel the woman would plessure her more than you, and that would make you uncomfortable, than don't do it. If she loves you she will respect your decision not to.
She is only BI- Cuirous right? So, this is just something she is curious about. It's not like she is in love with women. She's loves you, you're married, and she decided to be with a man instead of a woman.
I personally say try it, be spontanious. It's not a permenent thing. She's just curious, I highly doubt she will like it better.
Don't beat youself up over it. K. Good Luck
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reader, RebeccaT  +, writes (21 August 2007):
It doesnt deem right even if she is a bi shes married to YOU and shoulnt go off with other women or men.Being bi is still no ecseption shes suppost to love you and thats like having an affair with someone.Its not right tell heryou dont feel comfprtable.
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