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writes:My wife had sex before she met one time only for a minute or so and she thinks that she is not pure enough for me now. I was a virgin and she by technical terms is not since a penis pentrated her. It bothered me at first but now I feel lucky because many guys would feel happy it they got a women who only had sex 1 time before them. How do I get her to stop feeling bad bout herself I mean its really nothing. Im the only guy that shes done anything with besides a minute or 2 of vaginal penetration. What do all you men think out there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwere you a virgin as well to the guy whos wife had sex scores of guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): My wife had sex with scores of guys before she met me, and she wishes she hadn't had sex with any and that I was "the only one".
I don't care if she had sex with 10,000 guys before me, as long as I'm the "only one now", and anyone who would tell me that she's not worth as much as a woman who was a virgin would be someone that I would consider a shitbag.
Your wife and you live life, and she needs to realize that life happens like this, but bottom line is that she needs to realize that "virginity" is not a measure of worth, and you'd better realize that also.
Fidelity is what is important....fidelity....fidelity, and I'm not just referring to sexual activity either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut are story is more complicated then that the reason those two other minutes happened were because of me she is such an innocent and sweet girl. If i would of never been a jerk to her before we got married it wouldn't have happened if I would of just accepted her the first tim instead of breaking her heart and nt wanting to talk to hr anymore. I take full blame for it. See she knew me before those 2 minutes happened and just wanted me only I as her first kiss first man she ever loved and the only. After those couple minutes she knew what she was doing was wrong and told the man to stop. Even though I was a complete jerk to her she called me and cried and told me everything. I gave her a second chance because I knew how much she loved me and I just took it for granted the first time. I been with her ever since. Shes been the best wife in the entire world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Tell her what you've told us. Then you've done all you can.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Thats how a lot of relationships just are, either one or both partners have been sexually active before meeting each other.
Unless she told you she was a virgin and now feels guilty for lying theres no real big issue.
Just tell her it's you she chose, its her by your side now, not anyone else and thats all that matters to you that you have each other. The rest is history and should remain in the past.
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