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writes:my girlfriend has broken up with me after 5 months and i am heartbroken,she is a widow of 2 years and says she cant get her deceased husband out of her mind and says its not my fault and dosent want a relationship i am sad and cant get her out of my mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): for now how about just being her friend. yes it is sad you could have been her rock during these sad tormenting days. but please respect her. i think that she is also experiencing guilt in having moved on with you so maybe the timing just isn't right. whatever the reason is try not to pressurise her and tell her that you respect her decision. if you believe that you both can be happy in the long run then don't disappear from her life. love her as a friend, help her grieve and comfort her as a friend. the grieving process is a long one but if she is worth it then you need to be willing to wait as she goes through the motions of grieving. please do not be angry at her, she did not lead you on. right now she is going through a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): If you can love this woman I suggest you do what you can to support her. Remain friends but give this woman space as the grieving process takes time, changes and can last several years sometimes. If you want to wait for her then do so but do not close down other opportunities or your social life. You are thinking of yourself but she has been very honest with you about her feelings. She sounds like a sincere person and you need to be honest with her too about your feelings for her - but that ultimately you are there for her in whatever way she needs so will not pressurise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): i agree with ice, there is not much you can do for her. Letting someone go takes time and unfortuantly it does not work like in the movies, you loose them one day at a time and piece by piece. She has to do this in order to be mentally healthy. Aside from being just her friend right now I am afraid your stuck.
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