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writes:Hi . My wedding is on 3 weeks and I'm thinking on break up with my girl now ?? Please I need advices thank you. making it short..I am good looking guy and even little shy I always had luck with many women in my life because of that I never trusted in woman because they were easy to me and my way on control them.Since my 17 years old afteri had my last broken heart . I started be aplayer with women because all of them were bad to me.... today after 2 marriages ..Iam 45 years old , still good shape and attractive for many women ..when I was 43 years I found this woman and I got in love with her...okay the question is my girl likes to mewrite stories about me with other women , she likes to read that. i thought that she could want try make sex with other woman but she said no way.in my mind she was a good woman but It started change I got upset with her ..I told her I don't to be more a bad guy with women ( bad means make everything about sex ...toys and movies..I always hated be on this way with women but they would do everything that I wanted if I was this kind of guy ..nasty on bed disgusting my past with these women ). yesterday she told me that was curious to see my reaction and wanted that i Write about her and me and other guy...I did it she will read today but on this story ..I made her have sex with guy ..I let it much more for her imagination and in the end of story I finished with our relationship telling to her ..It's better for her look for other guy and in the story I found a nice woman for real. Do you think that I have to break with her because of her fantasies about sex?
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reader, Mandiwanthomen +, writes (5 December 2010):
Mandiwanthomen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thans for the answers because made me think better about the situation....About the story that I wrote she couldn't read on this day but I read to her by phone she got too upset and I was laughing ..in the end she said "that she was curious about my reaction on think her with other guy only It...That I insecurity from my part " I answered her okay...let's do It you write to me a story that I will be with 2 womens okay..she said no way ! why are you insecurity too about me ? yes she said! the problem is she know that I had pretty women in my past and she wanted know if I have attraction for her for real...I told her that she 's my start and whatever situation that she is about sex ..this will turn me on because my problem on be addict on sex but no way that I would share her with other guy even writing in some fantasy, because I don't want to open door for some threesome on the future and don't matter if It's another woman or man..she is mine and Always will be.
She told that she couldn't think about the fake guy that I wrote...yeah I know. You would put some guys's face from your everyday...haha now way! I explained to her even many people or psychologist says that It's normal fantasize with other people to spice the relationship ....It's wrong because whatever you do in the real life first you had to do in your mind...If I didn't care about her no problem because I would do the same but I love her..... in the end she's okay she knows that I wrote to some website to get advices....We are okay... I lover much and really as the answers here everyone has a flaws and for real I'm far on be perfect....Thank you very much
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): You and I are alike in some ways. I've been married and divorced twice. My current husband was from another country. We would talk online every day, but only see each other for a couple of weeks at a time a couple of times a year. I think it is important to spend more time together before getting married. Also, if you have ANY doubts now about the marriage, delay it. I am about 75% happy in my marriage. I wish that we would have been able to spend more time together before the marriage. We had to marry for him to get a visa. When you've been divorced two time already, it makes you feel like you are a bad person. Please take time before you decide to marry. Easier to wait now, than make a mistake and divorcebfor third time. I wish you luck and much happiness
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reader, Mandiwanthomen +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mandiwanthomen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers I hope that I can get more answers....really you both are great women thank you and the other ladies that will answer me please don't be insulted by my way on say about married women that look at me.Okay
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Your english is fine :) I speak a little spanish and I always worry about it too. I understand where you are coming from. My family is Catholic and since I was a little girl, I learned that sex outside of marriage was bad and that a woman should only think of her husband. Coming to America, I saw girls doing the opposite and that shocked me! I thought: "Wow! They're horrible!" I had to understand that everyone's different and though I was NOT going to be like them, I had no right to judge. From your past, I see that sex has been something that's confused and affected you. You want to be a sweet, romantic guy and yet, you gave in to playing women. I think that you should take some time to think about things, to really discover more of yourself and what you are willing to give up to find true love. We cannot have 100% of what we want. There will always be something left out. You have to decide what is more important to you. If this flaw you found in this woman is bigger than the things that made you love her.
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reader, Mandiwanthomen +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mandiwanthomen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what you are saying but let me explain better I was a player guy because of women. they couldn't be with me when as a nice guy ...I am Brazilian man and in my country sex is on everywhere with 14 years old I was already picking up prostitutes on the streets for free, Ilost my virginity with a woman of 48 years old and I was a boy . with 17 years old i understood the game and I started get many girls that I could handle 2 , 3 and they knew how i was from outside but I never let them know what I was feeling and what I was looking for a nice and decent woman. Please don't get me wrong okay there is many decent women ..My mother and my two sisters and many women outside but I never got a really one. All nice women that I put my hands on after time they could fall on my tricks on my bad way on bed I am good lover so I knew that they wanted be with me because my way on bed . And It's the true I could be a nasty, mean guy that they still would love me yeah only because sex and my look..I was married twice ..one 10 years the other 6 years and my other relationship was 3, 4years .I love women but I can't trust on them because Iknow much about woman. That's bad to me because i can feel a woman only if a look at her, It's almost that I am reading herxxxx I could have a different woman in my bed everynight if I wanted too ..maybe some guys ..oh this is great !!! no this is not great ..I want to be what I am Ilike to be romantic ,I make poems. I like be in love but always sex disturb my life..I got addicted on sex really I am but I;m loyal and I don't cheat her...She is another country and sheis coming to my country to marry me ..on the last 6 months she came here after me 3 times...When I met her i didn't want to be with her but I stayed two years injail inher country because Of DUI and I hit a car I was Illegal immigrant and this situation made worse to me ,,she started to visit in prison and the funny thing in my country before I was Arm's parachutist and a Cop after the Army...my first time in jail behind of grades because I was broke the law ...they did right I deserved that ..It's already payed ..this girl waited for me at least she says it and visit for all this time...she is okay on her look . she wouldn't be the kind of woman that I wanted beside of me before I always liked nice and curvaceous bodies but I learned to love this woman from her heart for the firsttime in my life ..first her heart, second her mind ( she wasn't a dumb woman..she has good job and her father is good lawyer in her country ) all her family didn't wanted her with me , really they still don't know me they know that I am here in Brazil and now they accept because they made a check up inmy records and know that I braked the law only on this time drunkenness...I know that she loves me but I have fear on made her equal on the same way that I did the others ...whatever woman that I got if falls on my smile and my eyes I will make her became a trash woman... to me all women that have fantasies with other men besides of her husband are trash. I never went out with no married woman or if this woman had a boyfriend ..she wasn't worth on be with me ..and I am being really nice with them ...I found disgusting ,,I get sick when I see a woman beside of her husband or married and start to flirt with me...If she could see behind of my eyes she would run because to me she is a infection and a worm...sorry about my English .my language is Portuguese but I can speak Spanish too...I'm not using spell check because I want this post be answered fast.....yeah I am confused guy with my way with women...today that are many player giving advices how you can get women..yeah they are right because I did and I do everything that is on there..i learned it with them women thought as be a player....She will read the my sex story at night..yeah she will get excited because i made the guy very well but I will be hurting her too when she get on the last pagge yeah I will be marrying anice brazilian woman and have my little daughter ..This post is already too long sorry and Thank you
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reader, Mandiwanthomen +, writes (2 December 2010):
Mandiwanthomen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what you are saying but let me explain better I was a player guy because of women. they couldn't be with me when as a nice guy ...I am Brazilian man and in my country sex is on everywhere with 14 years old I was already picking up prostitutes on the streets for free, Ilost my virginity with a woman of 48 years old and I was a boy . with 17 years old i understood the game and I started get many girls that I could handle 2 , 3 and they knew how i was from outside but I never let them know what I was feeling and what I was looking for a nice and decent woman. Please don't get me wrong okay there is many decent women ..My mother and my two sisters and many women outside but I never got a really one. All nice women that I put my hands on after time they could fall on my tricks on my bad way on bed I am good lover so I knew that they wanted be with me because my way on bed . And It's the true I could be a nasty, mean guy that they still would love me yeah only because sex and my look..I was married twice ..one 10 years the other 6 years and my other relationship was 3, 4years .I love women but I can't trust on them because Iknow much about woman. That's bad to me because i can feel a woman only if a look at her, It's almost that I am reading herxxxx I could have a different woman in my bed everynight if I wanted too ..maybe some guys ..oh this is great !!! no this is not great ..I want to be what I am Ilike to be romantic ,I make poems. I like be in love but always sex disturb my life..I got addicted on sex really I am but I;m loyal and I don't cheat her...She is another country and sheis coming to my country to marry me ..on the last 6 months she came here after me 3 times...When I met her i didn't want to be with her but I stayed two years injail inher country because Of DUI and I hit a car I was Illegal immigrant and this situation made worse to me ,,she started to visit in prison and the funny thing in my country before I was Arm's parachutist and a Cop after the Army...my first time in jail behind of grades because I was broke the law ...they did right I deserved that ..It's already payed ..this girl waited for me at least she says it and visit for all this time...she is okay on her look . she wouldn't be the kind of woman that I wanted beside of me before I always liked nice and curvaceous bodies but I learned to love this woman from her heart for the firsttime in my life ..first her heart, second her mind ( she wasn't a dumb woman..she has good job and her father is good lawyer in her country ) all her family didn't wanted her with me , really they still don't know me they know that I am here in Brazil and now they accept because they made a check up inmy records and know that I braked the law only on this time drunkenness...I know that she loves me but I have fear on made her equal on the same way that I did the others ...whatever woman that I got if falls on my smile and my eyes I will make her became a trash woman... to me all women that have fantasies with other men besides of her husband are trash. I never went out with no married woman or if this woman had a boyfriend ..she wasn't worth on be with me ..and I am being really nice with them ...I found disgusting ,,I get sick when I see a woman beside of her husband or married and start to flirt with me...If she could see behind of my eyes she would run because to me she is a infection and a worm...sorry about my English .my language is Portuguese but I can speak Spanish too...I'm not using spell check because I want this post be answered fast.....yeah I am confused guy with my way with women...today that are many player giving advices how you can get women..yeah they are right because I did and I do everything that is on there..i learned it with them women thought as be a player....She will read the my sex story at night..yeah she will get excited because i made the guy very well but I will be hurting her too when she get on the last pagge yeah I will be marrying anice brazilian woman and have my little daughter ..This post is already too long sorry and Thank you
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reader, followtheblackrabbit +, writes (2 December 2010):
Fantasies are just fantasies. We all think about doing things we wouldn't normally do. I understand that you are more conservative in bed and appreciate a woman who is the same...I really don't think your fiance having these fantasies is a good excuse to break the marriage when otherwise, everything else is fine. Just talk to her (nicely) and explain how these things are not liked by you. But these stories aren't serious! She's just using her imagination so don't take it so seriously and judge her like that. If you really loved her, this would not be the issue that breaks your soon-to-be marriage.
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