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writes:Well, this is embarrasing too say as a mother for starts. But I will anyways.. It all started with me finding my son who is 14 years old, with my finding porn on his computer, in his drawers. Stuff like that.. sounds normal so far, right? But it is very bad, the porn I found was children porn. It was some of him and his young cousins, and some of just stuff he found on internet. I really am confused, I knew he had sexual interactions before. Just not too little girls, the child porn im talking about is ages 6 - 13. I confronted him, he told me that its really hard to control. He is a handsom young man, he can get girls his own age. Why would he go for little girls? I saw one video of him and his 3 cousins + his bestfriend. They we're in the basement, and the date on the tape was 2 days ago. I knew the cousins we're sleeping over, but not his friend. I never even heard nothing, I didn't even discover the child porn. The girls we're young, to young to do what they we're doing. His 3 cousins from oldest to youngest are: 12, 9, and 6. and his bestfriend, which is a female is 14. She is a very sweet girl, dosen't seem like the type that would be the way she is. The main picture is, is this just because of his hormones? What should I do? P.S. I asked him to show me how he masturbates. I know, sounds bad but I wanted to know in he was sexually confused, be he wasen't.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 You absolutely need to hustle this child to a psychologist and QUICK. As has been pointed out, do you realize your child is participating in extremely illegal activity and could be marked as a sex offender, a label that will stay with him for his entire life? He will have a rough time for the rest of his life as a sex offender, and if you want to save him from such a fate, you need to put whatever time, effort and money you've got into taking your child to a psychologist immediately. The psychologist can recommend what your next steps should be as the parent, particularly in regards to the other children involved.
That is absolutely the step you should take and as quickly as possible. What your son is doing is illegal and wrong.
P.S. Asking your son to masturbate in front of you is not a good idea. You may have been trying to do the right thing, but that's even verging on sexual abuse. It was probably embarrassing, confusing and humiliating for your son. I would definitely not do that again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Do you realize child porn is against the law? Your son could be registered as a sex offender and ruin his life. He could even go to a detention center over this! All it would take is for someone's parent to step forward and call the cops, they would be all over you.You need to get him some professional counseling with a therapist that is experienced in sexual misconduct. This could save his life. You do not have the tools to do this yourself. Worry about your son first and when he is on a solid path, you can perhaps, with guidance help others. Your sole priority right now should be your son.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 This sounds like it has spread not just to yr son, but around his family and friends. It really has to be stopped, as it is very unhealthy and wrong, I think.
I would talk to the parents of all the children involved, and also talk to your doctor(s). I certainly don't think you should be asking your son to show you intimate things like what he might do with his own body - he is 14 - you really can't humiliate him like that. He is a young male now. Having said that, you do have to involve yourself to the extent that you stop this child porn and acting out with cousins. It could even be dangerous, and certainly it will affect these children for life. You must stop it, but I strongly suggest you involve other adults to help you. Good luck.
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