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writes:There is a teacher at my school who I have always got along well with, in a purely friend-like way. You know what it's like when you meet someone completely 'on your wavelength' e.g. same sense of humour, confindent in each others company, but this is not dodgy in any way, we just have a laugh in lessons.The other day I had to go into a classroom after school to pick up some work that was left in a tray for me and he was in there. I could tell that something wasn't right but then he pushed me up against the wall and started kissing me. He stank of alcohol and I tried to get him off me but he stuck his hand up my skirt and started trying to finger me. Then he stopped and tried to undo his trousers. It was only then that I managed to get him off me.I haven't told anyone about it because I know that wasn't really him and that he was completely out of his mind, but I haven't slept for days because of it and I'm on summer break now so won't see him for six weeks. I can't bring myself to say anything though as he is not like that. I don't know what to do - I don't even know if he remembers anything about it. Please help me.
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reader, lovesick111  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 You said he stunk of beer. He could've been drunk.
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reader, twinkle1million +, writes (16 September 2009):
well if u truly think that it wasnt like him then u should go see him after school and talk to him about it and if yer to scared bring a trustworthy friend along with u
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Ok so you have to tell someone about this even tough he might have been out of his mind, he could do this again to you and other students.
And also he shouldnt get drunk in school.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 He IS like that. He did it and yes, he does need to be reported, so that he can get the help he needs and so that some other poor girl doesn't get hurt as well. If everyone keeps this a secret, he'll only cause more damage. If he can't remember anything that only means he was so drunk he would have been a danger driving or doing anything at school. Not safe at all
Please tell your parents or the head at school.
Take care.
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reader, littlekitten1130 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 you need to definately report this to authorities as soon as possible...it doesnt matter if he was drunk or not...what he did was very sick and wrong...and unless you do something about it...he might do it again...This is very serious...he tried to rape you. If you do not feel safe or comfortable going immediately to the police..please go to some friends or someone you trust to talk this out...maybe they can report your teacher for you so you do not have to carry the burden.Please be safe this summer and consider what your best options are for this teacher and for the safty of yourself and other students who might have him next year.If you tell your parents...the school can even be sued. I hope your emotionally ok...if not, talk to someone about it or seek medical help...if you don't want to immediately say the reasons for your help, us an excuse like, stress from a boyfriend, or something. I wish i could be more help...man...i just hope this guy gets arrested for this
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Okay-- I have a little background in this because number one, I am a teacher and number two, I have been married to a recovering alcoholic who has done things while drunk that were totally "not him". First of all, I do not know why this teacher would be in his classroom after being intoxicated. It seems maybe he has a problem with alcohol, and you are probably right that he would have never done this if he were not drunk. Still, this is not your fault and he needs help. You on the other hand should not feel guilty in any way, drunk or not, he is a teacher and as a professional he should be able to separate himself from this kind of sexual attraction. It doesn't matter if you feel you connected, he should never had let even get that far to feel the connection. I am young enough and attractive so I have had several young high school boys make comments under their breath, but the boundaries are set immediately. They can giggle all they want and daydream if they must, but they also know that I think of them as students and still children. This teacher let down the walls and allowed you to see him as a "friend" not a teacher. That was wrong on his part. He is the adult in this situation. Keeping quiet about this is also not such a good idea because essentially you are doing this to protect him. He doesn't need your protection. He doesn't deserve your protection. Ask yourself why you feel the need to protect him? You need to look out for yourself and don't worry AT ALL about his feelings. The best thing you can do for him is report it so maybe he can get the help he needs.
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