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writes:I have a major issue with my teacher!He's constantly flirting with me, he texts, rings and emails me. and now I think something may happen between us...the way things are going. I want to stop but at the same time I cant because I'm starting to like himI can't write much because I dont want to post it all over the internetIf anyone is in the same position is me (or has been before), or anyone who has an idea of what to do, I'd really love some advice so message me!
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reader, diamond_99 +, writes (30 January 2009):
diamond_99 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's still emailing me and texting me. I don't know if I'm just being paranoid but should he be texting me? we don't talk about course work either, it's general stuff and he's always hinting he likes me, being all flirty.I like it but at the same time I wish he wouldn'tso confused :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Do some older guys sometimes have problems with always liking younger girls then?
Yes, and most of them are people we call perverts (not all, some guys can actually fall in love, but they leave you alone until you finish school).. As I said, would you want to date and have sex with a 10year old boy.. Think about it.. Why doesn't he want a woman of his own age, what's wrong with him?
If you like him and he likes you, then you wait until you finish school and he is no longer your teacher. You present aged 16-17 (overage) and living in the UK.. If you like your teacher and he likes you, wait until you finish school and then you can start a relationship and nobody can stop you. At the moment, if he is flirting or doing anything slightly sexual, he will loose his job.
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reader, diamond_99 +, writes (30 December 2008):
diamond_99 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. I don't know if I'm reading into things too much but the stuff he texts and emails me indicates that he likes me. Or by what you've said, just wants to use me.
I know it's really bad and wrong for him to do this but at the same time I can't stop myself replying to him! I don't think i would turn him in because he hasnt actually done anything sexually with me. but the way he looks at me is so seductive, so i know he wants to. I can't really ignore him either because whenever he see's me he always comes over. Do some older guys sometimes have problems with always liking younger girls then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): I'm so angry right now with your teacher..
What is he offering you? Are you gonna go on dates, is he gonna take you out, are you gonna invite him home to meet your parents. When you go to school, is he gonna come up to you, kiss you and tell you he loves you? Are you gonna be able to tell everybody that he's your boyfriend? Will you get to meet his family and friends? Will you be able to spend quality time together, do things together? What kind of relationship is this?
I can tell you what he wants, quick sex in the back of his car or maybe in a grotty dump of a hotel room. I bet he will even tell you to keep your school uniform on because it excites him a lot. When your at school, he will walk pass you and pretend he doesn't know you. You'll be lying and hiding your relationship from your friends and the other people at school, because if anybody finds out the will crucify you with their laughter and their insults. You'll be teachers pet, but they won't be thinking your clever, they'll be calling you nasty names. What guy your age will come near you or have anything to do with you again? You'll always be that girl who did things with her teacher..
Tell him to piss off, tell him he's a pervert and you've kept copies of his emails and his text messages and your gonna turn him in. He hopes you will keep this a little dirty secret. This is how he gets sex, from young girls who are frightened, flattered into thinking their special because their teacher fancies them. Go and tell somebody and get this pervert kicked out of school. He's a pedophile, he loves having sex with young girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): What the hell is going on with these teachers, it feels like this Christmas has become pervert season. Tell your teacher to knock it off or you'll report him to your parents, the school board and the police. You may feel flattered by all the attention, but this guy is a creep, the only reason why he is bothering you, is because your so young. He likes young girls, when you are older he won't be so interested. He's supposed to teach you, not try to fuck you, that's not what school is for. What kind of teacher bothers a student looking for a date? The only type of teacher that dose that is somebody who is messed up in the head. Why can't he find a woman of his own age. Imagine, to me, this is like you trying to get a date with a 10year old boy.
You are at school to learn lessons and pass exams so you can get a good job. A teachers job is to teach you well and help you to pass exams. Schools are not a place to flirt with student girls and try to get into their knickers. This guy is a pervert, your not the only one he has done this too, he's an expert, he's probably done this before. For all you know he's doing this to lots of girls in your school, trying to find somebody stupid enough to fall for his charm and give him the free sex that he can't get off anyone else.
You want people in similar situations, well we do have a few, it's not common, because most teachers are decent people, but here are some examples to make you think twice.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-a-pupil-that-got-involved-with-a.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-falling-for-your-teacher-is-never-good.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): The best advise I can give is simply dont even go there. Metathoracly (dont no if spelt rite) speaking of coures. Teacher student relationships are not rite untill your no longer a student. If you both agree a real relationship could happen then wait until you leave to act on it.
All the best xx
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