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writes:Hi all, I need your help. I was working for a company for two years and my supervisor was so abusing, I leraned that 6 people left before me after few months however I tolerated for 2 years and was doing extremely well. I was really overwhelmed one day and a recruitere contacted me trough LinkedIn,I wasn't even looking for a new job at the time anyways I went for it and in 4 days I gof an offer! Great benefits and 15k jump. It was too good to be true. I learned that few people had left this position as well so I got a little concerned but the CFO looked very friendly and I mentioned that micromanagent is not for me and they said no problem and assured me. To make a long story short after 2 weeks I can guess the reason for high turnover! The CFO which is my supervisor beside her friendly personality has some twists too. No or very little training and high expectations! Either she is not there or busy with her stuff. It is very very difficult and frustrating with minimum to no training regardless of how experienced you are. On top that she is trying to shatter my confidence which I hate the most by asking random questions like I feel she is testing me and sometimes you cant answer on top of your head. I have learned the software by myself and started working from the day first but have no background on the company and some tasks are time consuming as I should first get familiar and if I have any questions she says sorry for putting you in this situation but you should admit that you don't know what you are doing and you should ask!!! Couple of time I have asked and she said what do your think yourself or go figure! For something minor she accuses you of not knowing anything! Or making gustares. It's making me really uncomfortable and I don't kknow what the hell to do. Please help me . What is your suggestion? Thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2016): I'm the OP- Thanks for your help. Actually they are doing fine. I'm helping with the audit myself so there are no legal issues. She finally tuned down. A little help , I can't call it training! and I'm amazed how well I'm doing. I sat her down and asked her to explain me something that she said i should have done it in half an hour as she does. Guess what! It took 6 hours and she was stuck in some parts. That was it! She has kept it quiet now! I Will give it more time to see what's going on. Thank you for your advises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2016): I think the problem is that you supervisor probably faked her qualifications and you are never going to get an honest answer because she is too busy trying to project herself as your boss and hoping like hell that you dont realise that she doesnt have a clue. It doesnt take much to figure that she wont promote being in a union.She is going to fear everything and use an attitude of brusqueness and paranoid putdowns.She doesnt want to talk at length about anything because she will always fear being caught out.Have a word about career progression and workload and her reply will most likely confirm this.You could deal with this by moving on or by telling her that you want a £50000 raise as you are not getting training and learning the software singlehandedly is stressful and time consuming.You could be her girlfriday and literally run the company but she will always want the credit for it.Denizen may well have hit the nail on the head with telling you to check the status of the company and seev if they are up to date on accounts, legal requirements etc.You say your in the states so check with the company that registers all companies for the status.If they are in the process of dissolving they may not pay you for your final months before liquidisation.You could ask for a weekly salary or ship out as soon as possible to a company you can rely on as realistically you have living expenses and overheads if your own.Join a union anyway for protection on legal disputes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2016): Ik a recruiter I hire people for a living - I've worked for big and small companies .. My advice? LEAVE - if learn to ignore that someone is taking out their bad life- bad who - bad personality on u - is it worth? Come on life is so short and plus you can come up with so many lies why it didn't last - trust me trust me you don't have to put up with it
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 December 2016):
 You don't say what you do. Is it a job in which you are supposed to be able to take the pressure? Are you being tested to see if you can hack it?
Otherwise what would be the reason for her trying to knock your confidence? You have only just got there. Stand up for yourself.
Is the company sound? Sometimes there is more going on than you know.
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