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writes:So I have had this crush on my straight co-worker for queit some time now. I always joke with my friends about my crush on him telling them how I would love for him to go gay for just one night. I say it out of sarcasm totally not expecting that to ever happen. We hang out every once and a while after we get out of work just him and I and a few other Co-workers and lately he has been making me wonder if he is gay/bi/ or curious. For example I was looking up a picture in my phone to show him and he saw the picture of by boyfriends penis (who is now my ex) and I jokingly said you wanna see? He said sure, looking at it throughly and saying very nice. Which kinda raised the first red flag. Then just about two nights ago on Valentines day instead of going to hang out with his girlfriend of 3 years I asked him to comeover with a few Co-workers to be apart of our little singles night to have a few drinks and he agreed. So we go to my house and open a bottle of wine just the two of us as we are waiting for the rest of our friends to come as we loosen up from our hard day at work. He tells me to turn on the Hot tub so we could get in and go skinny dipping and I was like haha okay I don't know about skinny dipping but I'll turn it on and we can get in forsure! So time passes and my friends get here and start cooking in my kitchen as Him and I go upstairs to change into our bathing suits. I give him one and he says it looked too "manly" so I jokingly said alright well I have something a little more skimpy and show him to my underwear drawer where I pull out some underwear that are very cute. Told him he could wear those and the "manly" bathing suit over them and take the "manly" one off later if he would like. He tries them on in the bathroom and comes out wearing them and lets me check them out. He was like they look really good and obviously I'm going to say the same. That just raised another red flag as to why he would want me to check him out if he is "Straight". But time passes and we get in the hot tub continue drinking and eat our food that my friends cooked. After the food my friends left and it was just him and I and thats when things caught me totally off guard. Next thing I know we were making out and I felt horrible because he has a girlfriend but at the same time He's my biggest crush. After the kiss he goes under the water to give me a bj. I didn't ask or anything he just starts making these moves on me. Then tells me we should just go to my room but I said no that we should just chill a little longer. So we continue kissing and cuddling (naked) in the hot tub. But after awhile we both decided to go in and I told him I would like to take a shower because I had school in the morning so then I went in the restroom to shower and he followed me in and I offered for him to get in with me and he did. (the only time I came onto him the whole night) But after the shower we went to bed a both passed out right away after 2 bottles of wine and a six pack of beer.Then the next morning I get up in a rush to go to school and he just left and that was that. Now yesterday I spent all day thinking about what happened and how all that happened curious to know what is going on in his mind about all of that. Because I don't care how much you drink you don't just make out and mess around with a gay guy if you aren't at least curious. So I brought it up to him yesterday and asked what happened that night and he said that we just got really drunk... So I said okay aslong as we are still friends that fine. But deep down my crush just got worse and I want him to talk to me cause I really feel that he needs/wants someone to talk to. So please someone tell me what to do. I don't know what to say to him to make him talk to me cause He can't blame everything on the alcohol. I was well aware of what was going on and I know deep down he did too a little.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): Maybe invite him over again and see what happens? I'm not usually a huge advocate for cheating, but it seems like you still may have an opportunity to step in.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Don't understand why you want to test his sexuality. It doesn't matter if he is gay, bi or straight now that he has to explain to his girlfriend what he did last night. If he could ditch his girlfriend on V day it means their relationship is nothing to him, or he is just keeping her on a string. Still you have to take that as a night of naughty exploring if nothing more. There is nothing you can do and even if he breaks up with his girlfriend he is not quite ready for a relationship.
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