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writes:My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to find them nasty..... Now that's just disturbing me to pieces. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): Thanks we kinda talked about it. He was super annoyed and told me to get out of his room. I took every household object that could work and either superglued it or locked it up. I'm just going to be aware he's going through this and kind of keep things put away until he gets allot more discrete or stops. I don't want to tell my husband I tried and he was annoyed also I thought it was a big deal. Then he informed me he was doing much worse things when he was 13 and be glad that is all it is. I guess it's not a big deal. The responses from the guys helped and I read allot of blogs over the weekend, guys are just different!!!!!!!!I locked up the unders and forbade him to touch them or I was calling the therapist!!!! He and I haven't spoken about it again and I hope I never have to again. I am buying all new underwear today, cuz it is just freaking me out. So life goes on thanks everyone. Over and out
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (8 April 2013):
 This is disturbing. If he is grabbing hold of your underwear and using it in some way to masturbate, that means he is having fantasies about having it off with you. Do you realize that? This is the sickest thing I have ever read. Make him see a Psychiatrist.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (7 April 2013):
Dear OP,
When you ask if you should worry, I'm not sure what you are referring to. Do you worry about him being not normal, or doing something unhealthy, or being nasty/messy?
I grew up with two brothers and while they were in puberty, I stumbled upon irritating things, from porn, to masturbation self-portraits with friends, plastic vaginas.. some sort of weird experiments seem to be part of growing up as a guy. So this might be kind of a normal stage.
Now, I don't want to say you need to tolerate the abuse of your household items and underwear. But boys and girls that age have fragile egos. If you judge him too harshly and he feels you are disgusted, he might be deeply hurt, even if he's playing it cool.
When I read your story, something came to mind, doesn't have to be true though:
If he leaves these items around like that, maybe in some way, unconsciously of course, he hopes to get caught and he needs some help. Maybe he's not able to cope yet with some part of his sexual development, or some porn he's seen, some of his desires.
I'm bi and as a teenager, I wanted to keep my attraction to girls a secret, because I was very (!) ashamed of it. Yet, on the other hand, I always threw hints at my parents (short hair cut, mens' clothes, watching gay movies on the family tv, feminist books). Of course I didn't think, "I hope they will find out", because I was afraid they wouldn't love me anymore. But somehow, deep down, I hoped they would get it and still love me.
I'm not implying that your son is gay and I don't know him. But maybe, behind this weird behavior, there is a puberty crisis and a lot of confusion going on. Try to talk to him and not be too angry or disgusted. He may already look like a man, but he's somehow still a boy.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 April 2013):
 I would perhaps ask your hubby to have a chat about this (IF you think your son would be more comfortable talking to him ) YOU and your hubby need to set some ground rules and asap or he will continue this.
Your undies should DEFINITELY be off limit for his jerking off.
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