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writes:I have lost all respect for my sister. She was the person that I looked up to. The worst part is that she doesn't even seem sorry, and she isn't showing any guilt or remorse whatsoever. It's a long story.... I have just started back at college after working full time for the last year. So I was looking for a new job for weekends etc. A shop that I worked at when I was previously at college said I could have my old job back. Me and my sister went shopping to this shop, and my sister stole! And was caught......And now I can no longer have my job back. I can see there point in a way, I should have stopped her from doing it! But at the end of the day she is a full grown adult with 2 children, why should her actions and bad decisions affect me? Everyone who works there now thinks badly of me. It has really upset me, and she doesn't care! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): It must be very frustrating that, after what has happened, your sister doesn't even seem sorry. Her actions have had consequences on you, not just her, yet she seems unaffected by it. She may be feeling awkward, not sure what to say or do, and so is acting like she does not care.
However, I don't think it is fair that you should suffer because of what she did. Could you talk to the people in the shop, and tell them that while you are sorry for what has happened, you are not responsible for your sister, and would like a chance to work there again? Even if you knew what she was doing before you could stop her, you could still try.
If they still refuse to let you work there again, the only option is to move on. It must be really difficult, and I can imagine you may be feeling very angry. I would feel the same. But maybe something better is out there for you. Your sister may never give you the apology you would appreciate from her, but you can try not to let it hold you back. The best thing you can do for yourself is to carry on forward.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Your sister has been an embarrassment to you. If she wanted something that she couldnt afford she could have asked you to see if you could get her some discount. Your sister is very lucky that she hasnt been prosecuted. If she is showing no remorse then maybe this has been a way of life for her, trying to support the children. It is wrong and she may need help in sorting her finances out.
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