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writes:My sister made very hard critics on my degree my work and love life which nearly meke me cry, I always try to be nice to her when she's down but I cannot stand her attitude, she pretends to control when I go to the gym or the clasees I attend, I cannot stand this anymore she only wants to criticise me and that I listen to her idiot stories about the interneti feel like stopo talking to he for a time this morning we met for a walk and I couldn't cope with her rythm, she started to critisise my clothes and physical resistance i felt very down and walked away crying thinking that many people take for granted they can talk to me nasty way and that I'll be always there for them, I feel down and depressedwhat shoul I do?
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reader, Astrid +, writes (5 December 2006):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your anwers I feel very down sometimes and I need to be cared for not to be treated mean or criticised until I want to cry I have listen to friends and relative's problems and shared my free time a lot and now I feel very sensible a bit depressed and expect some respect not to be treated like crab you know I will seriously talk to people and make them see I won't always be ther for them unlese they treat me properly
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): Its hard when it comes to siblings but I suggest that the next time she does this you stand up for yourself and state clearly and confidently " I do not like the way you just spoke to me and I would appreciate it if you spoke to me with more respect, or me and you are going to fall out over this!".
my father used to say this to me when I was out of line or just being a little madam!, and I have used this phrase alot over the years and ussually it gets the desired affect.
but if she still doesnt get the hint, then sit her down and tell her how much she hurts you and that you would like her to stop being so judgemental of you. after all no-ones perfect!.
Good luck and stand up for yourself because nobody else will.
xx
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Hi Astrid,
I think u should learn to stand up to your sister or anyone else. My brothers were like that to me all the time. Imagine i was their only sister for awhile(three of them with only me) until my younger sister came much later. THey wouldnt want to play with me saying i am a girl and cant handle things and they dont want any cry baby. I used to be sad until i started speaking out and lashing at them. We are best friends now and sometimes we remember and laugh about it all.
You have to stay strong and dont let what she says get to u. If it is a genuine good advise then take it. If it isnt and she is just lashing out then tell her. Tell her with enough maturity and wisdom and she will learn to respect you. Dont let anyone take u for granted or bully u. You can prevent this by speaking up or letting them know u wouldnt take such.
Goodluck dear
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