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writes:Hi, I am a 31yr old with a younger sis aged 29 who is HIV positive. She has 3 kids and i have none and we dont have parents.meaning I parent everyone. I am in a very seriuos and committed relationship. My problem is I have become so reliant on him in terms of asking him to help with some things with my sister like taking her for her chek up's helping with the kids in terms of taking them out. I am now terrified that he might end up fed up with my baggage and leave me, I am scared of how i would look after my sister and kids without him. How do I make him feel as part of the picture without feeling used or over buredned, when he can easily find someone who doesnt have baggage? how do i still maintain our relationship without feeling drained by my issues? how can he help me in keeoing us going? I dont want to lose him he has become everything to me and my family, but I dont want to keep him because i need him, I want him to be happy that he's with me and should stay. If I should lose him I would just die, I am so lost in his love for me and doubt if i could ever find my way back to me should things go wrong. Please help me.Yours lost in Love.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 wow, first of all im so sorry for you and your sister, you 2 must be so strong and i admire you for that. second of all, have you voiced these concerns to him? has he told you that he feels like this or are these just your fears? sit down and talk with him, letting him know how much you appreciate everything he is doing and how much you think of him as family.this man obviously loves you or he would be long gone, just talk to him and let him know that you cherish him. and maybe arrange for the 2 of you to have one night every so often for just the 2 of you to spend time together and not have anything to worry about for a few hours?? i think that he's fine and loves you for who you are, but like i said talk to him anyway. i hope this helps hun, email me if you wanna talk more x
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