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*ummerslady21
writes:Ok this is not about me its my adopted sister she is 30 years old and is in a long distance relationship. The guy is 26 and is a truck driver. They have been together for 4 months and he proposed to her they have only seen each other twice since they started talking. He told her he was coming in for Easter he didn't show or call her he has made and broke promises to her and my nieces from the get go. They talk once every two weeks and it is like 10 mins long. I think he is playing her and she won't take anyone's advice on it but she asks all the time. She won't even become friends with other males because of him. How can I get her to see its all a game and he isn't being for real. I mean he lies all the time and has not made an effort to see talk or be with her!!! Any blind person can see what's going on. Please tell me what I can do before she gets hurt again!
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (10 May 2009):
summerslady21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell to update u she broke it all off with him. She even sold the ring he bought her! She is better to talk to now. She has taken advice on other things from us and it has made things easier on her. Oh yeah my dad contacted him and told him to leave her and her kids alone it helped too. The guy is scared to death of our dad for some reason but its all good now
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (30 April 2009):
summerslady21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I talked to my sister today and it has been two weeks sence they spoke last! I think she is getting the picture... I guess he told her he had been with another woman and has been for 7 years witch is a lot longer than them. She says she wil work around this problem and I need not tell our dad but he overheard is talking and he did the million qustion game! Our dad is now mad and wants too see this guy what do I do now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): I want to let you know that your sister will Never want to hear the truth about this low-life and chances are he's married. I have done this, and for a number of years! He ended up being married, having 5 kids (not with his wife) and was never there on any Holiday!!!! I didn't see what others did from the start and wasted years, so your sister is not alone but hopefully she will be smarter than I was.
I wish you the best in helping her see the light and she's lucky to have you :)
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 It's back to the old chestnut about being my brother, or sister's keeper. You have given her your opinion. Now you just have to be there for her when things start to crumble. Some of life's lessons have to be learnt the hard way.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (29 April 2009):
 You cannot make her see what he is like, she is going to have to come to that realisation herself. Sometimes it is easier to believe what we want to believe, it is easier than facing the reality of the situation.
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