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writes:Dear Cupid,I am 18 weeks pregnant and experiencing LOADS of hormones. Please no judging on this questions because I know that if I wasn't pregnant and feeling all of these emotions that I would never be feeling like this. In every article I've read on pregnancy, it says that your most likely to get hormonal and angry at your partner throughout your pregnancy, yet I haven't; If anything I love him more and I didn't even think that was possible. However, and I know this sounds horrible. whenever my partners sister is here with her children, they really aggravate me and don't get me wrong I love them; and I think they can have their really sweet moments, but they don't listen to anything they're told, I've been kicked in the stomach numerous times by the younger one, and the older one is horrible to her brother. She bites him if he tries to play with her and although my soon to be sister in law tells them off, they just don't listen. I know I have absolutely no place to judge on the parenting, but I feel like it's because they were always given what they want as it seems like this. My partners sister always brings them round and they really stress me out. this is not something i'd usually say because I love children but I'm having a difficult time around them because I have to really try hard not to shout at them when they do things, like picking up my laptop and just walking around with it, or helping themselves in my freezer or cupboards, just little things :(. I feel like such a horrible person but I really can't help this and don't know what to do because they're always here :(.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 May 2013):
 I have to agree. This is bothersome even on a good day and not a hormone issue at all.It's good that your sister in law addresses their bad behaviour, so that is half the battle, but it really does take a village to raise a child. Traditionally parents had the benefit of grandparents, aunts and uncles to reinforce the lessons they taught their kids. Extended family aren't there just to provide free babysitting when they go out.That means, it is entirely appropriate for you to speak up, clearly and firmly, instead of relying solely on your sister in law (or your husband, or anyone else). If they only hear this from their mother and no one else, they will assume no one cares and that their mother is just a nag.It might help not to have your laptop or other valuable, easily broken items around when they come over. And don't wait to be kicked in the stomach before you speak up. You can give them a warning when they start to get rambunctious.When it comes to your personal space, your property and your home, you do not need the parents' permission to set boundaries with their children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): A hundred percent agree with the last answer- be firm and tell your sister her kids need to pack it in, because they really need discipline- you know it and you're not a horrible person! seriously that behaviour isn't acceptable, does she know that her kids are probably be asbos, or does she care? Just explain to her reasonably, and if she's considerate and thoughtful, she'll understand why you can't deal with that behaviour in your current state.
Take care!! :) xx
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (21 May 2013):
 HI
Forget the hormones right now, these children sound completely out of hand!......you need to tell your partner that whilst you are pregnant and at a delicate time right now, you need all the peace and rest you can get before your baby arrives, and that having his sisters children over all the time is not helping, not to mention the fact ( kicking you in the stomach) :o you really have to put a stop to this right now, or when your child is here that is what they will look up to and possibly follow suit. You are NOT a horrible person at all, and to be honest if it were me I would have kicked her and her kids out of the house a long time ago. You need to stand up for yourself. I am sure if you speak with your partner he will understand.
Mandy x
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