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writes:[MOD NOTE: OP's OWN TITLE]Recently I moved to a new state because my Husband is the military. So he refuses to teach me how to drive. I am city girl, I never expected to have to get my license as I rode the bus/train in NYC. So when our move happened so OUT-OF-THE blue because I was under the impression that he would relocate to a base in NY. I had to move. I had no issues with that. But he refuses to teach me how to drive. So I am stuck with the transit system here. Where it takes me 3 hours to get my 9 am class and about 2 hours to get work. This is so frustrating what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): I'm 27, and just moved to the US from Canada where I did not need to drive in the large city I moved to.
I'm studying for the written and then once that is passed I'm hiring a company to teach me. My bf has a standard car so I can't learn on that.
Rather than blaming him, start doing it yourself. If he has a problem with it, then you have a problem on your hands - a controlling man is one tough problem to handle. But, perhaps he just does not have the time and is tired when he is back from work.
Do it yourself hun! Once you have the basics down, practice with him on the weekends.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (30 August 2010):
It really is rather strange that your husband won't teach you how to drive. Is there a particular reason for this? Is he too busy? Or not a good teacher (ie not patient enough to teach you)? I know people that can't teach people how to drive because they get nervous and yell at them a lot. In that case, it would be bad to have them teach you. If there's no valid reason, it is rather selfish of him to simply refuse. But like others said, if he won't and you want to, there are other places you can learn with. Plus, insurance companies like it if you learn with an actual driving school.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (30 August 2010):
He is not the only teacher in the world! find someone who has a car that will teach you and start studying your test too! you do not need him to teach you he is not your father, and stop depending him so much.you are your own person take responsbility for your life as well. and if he has a problem w/ that honey, sorry but i would be handing him divorce papers! because he is one controling husband who has a serious problem about you having freedom! and it does and will get worse. you need to open your eyes and speak your mind you have one don't you?Good Luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 That's military for you hon, they tell you what base you're going to and when. Get used to it, if you're lucky they'll give you a moments notice...Have you made any friends with the other military wives? I'm sure one of them would teach you how to drive. It's going to take so many hours behind the wheel, written and driving tests..plus we had to have a safety class too but you can get it all done in one summer at a driving school.
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