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writes:I really just wanted a male perspective on scars, but girlies if you have any words of wisdom that would be fab too. I have an ongoing knee instability that has required quite a bit of surgery and has left me with lots of long ugly scars, I really hate them, I used to be really confident and now only wear trousers and am dreading the summer. Would my injuries put men off? As you can probably tell I'm single at the moment and haven't had a boyfriend since I started having problems. My leg looks so ugly and my lack of confidence is starting to get me down. Also I'm on crutches, is this going to be another sticking point? Thank you so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Babe! I have scars all ove my legs, I have a huge one that runs all the way across both of my thighs, and its totally visable when I wear shorts, it came from a horse riding accident with an electric fence. Also I used to figure skate competitively and my knees are permanently discolored from all the bruising. Ive never had a guy comment on them in any way at all, even in the middle of summer when im wearing teeny shorts! And once Ive gotten with a guy they just think the stories of how i got them are cool! If a guy is shallow enough to judge you on your scars you dont want to be wasting your time with him anyway! :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 April 2009):
Sweetie, it's only your knee! Not your face.
No guy worth having is going to care.
Leggings, thick tights, long skirts! Don't restrict yourself! Look at the fashion mags and there are lots and lots of very sexy things that cover the knees.
If you cover up on the bottom then you can wear something a little more low cut on the top! That's the golden rule!
Dress up! Get sexy new makeup and a new haircut and get out there. Even if you are on crutches decent guys aren't going to be put off if you are looking incredibly sexy perched on a barstool.
If you look fabulous in leggings all summer and meet a guy and it goes well and you date for a few weeks, then by the time he sees you without the leggings.... well lets just say that his eyes are NOT going to be anywhere near your knees.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Discover me  +, writes (17 April 2009):
There are scar products out there. It okay. Just think on the bright side. Atleast u have a leg! Btw I have a scar bout three inches dwn my left arm. Atv accident say no more. Why wuld sumone dislike u or watever just bcuz u had surgery to fix ur leg? It ight.
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reader, Who +, writes (17 April 2009):
 There are all types of men with differences in what they like/don’t like. It ranges from men who don’t want to see a single blemish to this:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attraction_to_disability(Warning some of the text in the above text is a little creepy.)(The men who want body perfection, by the way, are going to have to settle for touched up Playboy photos; they are not going to find a real woman that meets their fantasy.)In your case any man who will be good for you will notice your scars and not really care about them; you have plenty of these men to choose from. Not you will not have to go through the same waiting and shifting process to find your man that your girl friends that don’t have scars go through. In the old days woman used to cover up anything they thought was unflattering and tried to accent and draw attention to what they thought were their best assets. Madame de Pompadour, the mistress of 18th century French King Louis XV, had this portrait painted of herself:http://www.emich.edu/abroad/staff/Benita/omurphy.jpgPeople at the time said she chose the pose to show off her best assets (no pun intended) and hide her least favorable ones. The saying about the portrait at the time was “If you belly be lined best be seen from behind.” In your case, have you seen those knee braces that look like tubes made from elastic material?http://www.bd.com/elastics/images/products/ace_brace_wov_knee.jpghttp://www.bd.com/elastics/images/products/ace_brace_neo_knee.jpgYou should be able to fit one that comfortably covers your scars. They come in different colors so you can have different ones to match whatever skirts or shorts you want to wear this summer. And with crutches no one will think a brace is out of place.When the time comes, you can show your knee to you man. Just tell him first you don’t like the way it looks. If he really is your man you will know it as soon as he sees your knee.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (17 April 2009):
 You can get special concealor to hide the scars from the doctor or pharmacy, there is one called dermablend. If you get the right colour and practise applying it correctly then you should be able to cover the scar. Alternativly you could wear linen pants, nice and light for summer, maxi dresses, @ants that go just below the knee...there are lots of tactical ways of covering up. If it was me I would probably just go out in whatever, people aren't going to be discusted by a scar as you are probably imagining. A scar is just part of who you are, I've got quite a few, I don't try and hide them, I just get on with it. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Be brave! I’m a girl and have a genetic condition that has left unsightly blotches all over my body. I used to be really insecure, particularly about what guys would think but I realized that the kind of guy I would want would be one that didn’t care about how I looked – I know that’s really cliché but it’s true. I would say don’t worry about it. Once you’ve got over the initial fear I bet you’ll feel fine even with your scars showing, and guys will see your inner confidence and thatch an attractive quality.
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