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writes:my boyfriend is currently in training for the merchant navy, so he is in college for 3 months, has 2 weeks off and then at sea for 4 months. wile he is at cllege i see hiim every other weekend but not at all when he is at sea. we have been together 14 months now. when he came home from sea a few months back, a the time we had ben together 11 months, the forst week he was back he was constantly drunk, and sent a good few texts to a female friend of his, these texts between them were very flirty and a few of them were mild dirty. i have only just found out about this (2 months later). he told me that he didnt tell e because he couldnt risk me hating him and he didnt want to lose me. he also said that the texts didnt mean anything to him at all, it was just harmless and stupidly drunk, he never sent any while sober and also didnt physically chea on me. he tells me he is so sorry and he loves me more than anythingi believe he loves me but what am i supposed to think and do about the texts to another girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): If that's the case you don't have anything to worry about! Forget about the texts etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhen i say constantly drunk, i mean he was out ever night drinking, some nights paralytic, some nights just moderate
i know he didnt do anything physical with this girl as they live in different countries, and i know for a fact tht he wouldnt have done anything physical with any one, as i know (from knowing him while he has had other girlfriends) he is not a cheat. if he was with some one but wished to go with some one else, even just as a 1 night stand he would finish with his girlfriend. he has such high morals, higher than i have ever known any 1 to have, which is why i dont know what to do, bcause i know he hates himself for sending just a few texts and i know he loves me and i know he has never done anything physical with any one else while being with me.. because of his morals and stuff there is no way he would with any ne, no matter who he was with
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): I think the constantly drunk bit would worry me more than the texting bit. All sailors let off steam after getting ashore from a few weeks at sea where their drinking activities are curtailed, but to spend a whole week drunk is overdoing it somewhat. It can't have been much fun for you unless you got drunk with him. No doubt he made a complete idiot of himself at the time.
Maybe he was letting off steam with the dirty texts too, but I suspect there might be more to it than that. He could be trying to open up other romantic avenues with this other girl - and I doubt she'll be the only one. He might see me as a traitor to the cause, but if I were you I'd dump him.
All the nice girls love a sailor - and a few not so nice ones as well.
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