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writes:So where do I begin? I've been with my boyfriend for ten years on and off. I love him so much and we're moving in together come this spring. The only problem is I'm unsure where else we're going. Some days I get told that I'm the only girl for him, and he can't wait to live together, and how I'm "the one". Other days it's we can wait, or I'm really content the way things are, or why would what's going good for us? He really confuses me, and some days I think he's worse than a woman when it comes to changing his mind. I can't see my life without him, but I'd really like to know what I can do to make his mind stick to one road. He has many bachelor friends and I think that has a great deal to do with our situation. I know it's part of the reason we've broken up in the past. Well, I guess other than advice on telling me what I can do to make him think one way verses all over, I also need help on getting the idea in his head that it's time to settle down and grow up. We're in our mid-twenties and not getting any younger, we don't have kids, and I'm really ready to get my career going. If he feels threatened by the idea of anything then he'll run, I know it. I just want him to settle down, and with me. I hate to sound desparate for it, but I'm ready, and I never thought I would be the one to marry. Please help, anything! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): Do you love him? Or are you just use to being with him?
Talk to him and then decide which way forward. Maybe you both need to space to decide what you want for the future.
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