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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok well,im only 14 but me and my bf where going out for nearly 7 months, at the begining of the relation ship wasnt very faithful to him, he found out about a few of the times that i cheated on him soon after it happened. and then for the next few months everything was fine, but in the last week, one of my best mates told him about other times i have cheated on him, he was extremly angry and i completely understand that, now i would never even think of doing anything like that again coz i really do love him. But he wants it to be over, even tho he still loves me. ive asked him if i could see him to talk aboutthings, but he wouldt let me go to his ( ive been there at leaste 6 times befor, no prob) and as we live 40 mins away from each other, he said he wouldnt cme to see me. Things have just gotten worse, ive lost my two best friends over it, as they found something out that happened ages ago to do with it, and i lied to them about it.i tryed to forget about it all and went out to town with another mate, who bought her mate and a few boys. what i didnt know was that one of my friends, (that now hate me) was watching me for about 10 mins, .. she got the imression that i was flirting withone of them.. i dont even know who?? She went bilisstic and started saying how could you do this to you ex who you still love, after a few days, and she told my ex and then he started saying how could i. Evn tho he said it was over. Now my ex best mate is sending me almost threatening text messages.. i have to go to school with her tomorow, im in almost every class with her,Shes telling/told everyone in my year about me and what ive done with boys, and telling me how they all think im a slut.. everyone loves my ex best mate in my year, so now they all hate mei really dont know how to cope with it all...i cant take anymore days off school, im scared tbh. i miss my ex so much .. but he wont even speake to me.. ive changed since i cheated on him.. but i dont know how to show him i havee ive stayed inall weekend, not seen anyone, i dont want to see anyone coz i know it will make things worse... please help me :(xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): your friends arent true friends really are they..
i know this sounds a lil harsh but you made your bed you have to lie in it. ignore the rude comments and try and make new friends. talk to your best friend(so called) and ask her why she did it. everyone cheats sometime. so dont feel too bad about it. the longer you put it off the worse it will get coz ppl will think your a coward. when ppl are rude to you think it will be over in a week or so and then everyone will forget it..apologise to ur bf and say it wont happen again. if he doesnt want to be ur bf anymore then be understanding and except the consequences of your actions. i really hope ther not too hard on you.
hope it goes well for you
ps:make some new friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): Well your friends sounds pretty lowclass, I mean she should be more understanding and try to help you, seems to me like she is jealous of you or maybe she just thinks youre a bad person, either way you should stay away from her. As far as your b/f is concerned, I think you destroyed his trust in you. And now he also probably has a bad impression of you, it will be very hard to patch things up with him if this is the case. Even if you do get back together he will probably not let this incident or incidents go. you might be better off to just find another b/f. but hopefully you learned why cheating is frowned upon. On a lighter note, you are still young, and you have other chances to meet new people. Just don't let them find too much out about your past.
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