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writes:hey,actually there is a guy,we both were in a serious relationship for three years . six months ago i told him that i am not intrested anymore in you. but that guy is still intrested in me.he keeps calling me and irritating me.the reason for my breakup was that he was interfaring in my personal life and i didnt like that.i am really irritated with him.but sometimes i also feel sorry for him.now what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): 3 years is not a short period, and he apparently loved you while you thought you did, but you actually did not. Referring to him in the beginning of your post as "a guy" not "my ex" says it all.
You both are young "he also is I presume" and you will move on, but next time when he tries to talk to you, have a gentle and truthful talk with him. Tell him firmly yet not in a rude way that it is over, and that he needs to move on and finds another girl.
If he asked you to remain 'friends' make your answer short and decisive "NO", especially when it is obvious that such friendship wouldn't work.
And try not to feel sorry for him, because he will move on, and will find someone whom he'd love, and who'd love him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): I suggest you break all contact with this guy. Your good intentions of being friends with him, is confusing him and he might think he still has a chance with you.
Feeling sorry and having empathy with him is making your life miserable and probably his aswell, as he is more then likely reading it wrong.
SOmetimes you have to be cruel to be kind, I think it is the situation with him. Ask him not to contact you again, break all ties. Give him time to heal and get over you.
Good luck!
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