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*ownhere777
writes:My boyfriend and I have been living together for the last 6 months now and up until 3 weeks ago everything has been great. But lately i have not been getting turned on as much and during sex i often fantasize about something other than him. I am not cheating on him and i dont have any feelings for anyone else. I found myself in my past relationship doing the same thing. Once we have settled down together i would distance myself from the other person and lose interest. I need HELP! My boyfriend is the most amazing guy i know. I love him, i just am having second thoughts and i dont know why. Any ideas or thoughts as to why this is happening....???
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): Maybe, if you fantasize during sex you could talk to him and maybe suggest you could spice up your sex life.
There are so many "out there" and "kinky" things out there to try, it would be impossible to get bored, it worked for me and my beau :)
Good luck and merry Christmas!
~ Luffy
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 December 2009):
 It does not sound as if you are truly ready to settle with one man. Just as many, if not most young men about your age are mainly interested in "playing the field," many young women are much the same. Such may be the case with you, but you are possibly struggling against it. You say you "love" him and he is great, but it's still not enough. You still feel that there can be something better.
Another possibility is that the boyfriends, though "great," are really not so talented or experienced in pleasing a woman. Rarely, if ever, would such a talent come with birth - it comes with experience and a strong desire to learn how. Young men have a tendency to think that all they need to do is have intercourse, perhaps along with a bit of foreplay and licking, to keep the girlfriend happy.
Truth is, it takes more than that to really maintain a "spark." Whatever, either something is missing, or you may simply not be ready to settle down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): The poster below is right. I've been there. Just bare with it, it will pass. Ever hear of the "2 year itch?" It's normal, if you love this man stick it out. Might sound silly but try watching some porn on your own and fulfill any sexual desire that may be causing you to be curious and fantasize. Your not out cheating, it's perfectly normal and you won't hurt him at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): You're just going through a stage. Google "stages of a relationship"
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