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writes:i have been dating this guy since 5years now. it had been one of the most beautiful relationships ever all the while through for all the 5years.in the 3rd year i had to leave to another country for study purpose. i got back in 8months and then again was out for 4months.. later i got back and was out for 2months again. now im back permanently.the problem arises now.. all the while i had been out i have cheated on him. it has been 4times in all and he knows about it. he too has done it only once because i had told him earlier that i had done it.about one the guy called him up and told him i totally used that other guy for my benefit.. when i helped him with things he needed. after f*****g my life that guy comes and tells me and my bf sorry!now since i am back in town my bf says since i am around he cannot have even a one night stand with another person. he wants a 3-some to happen and seeing me so unable to fix anything up it is f*****g up his mind completely.i feel like crap..totally for all i did. it was immature and i feel completely used by all those guys. me are f*****g useless pieces of shit. and i have screwed up my relationship over something so worthless.now my bf has accepted me back despite of all the episode of the past. moreover he has warned me that all that i have done has been a real hard hit on his trust and self confidence and also confidence in me.i feel pathetic for what i have done.. cheating is so not cool and i wouldnt advice anyone to do it no matter how depressed they are.there is another problem.. he wants me to give up on the career field i have chosen. my parents have spent hell lot of money on that in lakhs! i have to repay it all back to them. rite now im in a completely traumatized state of mind considering what a mess i have made of my bf, what a pitiful peace less situation my mind is in.. and my expensive career.help me..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondumping him would mean running away from the situation and giving up on a really long and beautiful relationship.. and giving up on career means traumatising my parents.
rite now the 3some doesnt stand as much..however the letting go of the career does. he is not ever ready to accept it if i tell him im ready to take a break from it and do something else for a while as im not going to b getting a job in aviation too soon.. he says the situation will never improve and the day i chose my career it is the end of everything...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): If you stopped swearing one could probably make sense of what you are saying.
You slept around and went and fessed up. Now your boyfriend is angry. He wants a threesome? And you need to fix it for him?
You say you had a nice relationship.
And your this gem of a boyfriend wants you to give up your career.
Obviously, dump him if the relationship cannot be salvaged. And concentrate on your career. Who knows, after a break of many months from you he may heal a bit. Who knows you may decide you are better off without him. You need to be emotionally mature to deal with a relationship and not cheat on people, because you can. Even if you dont travel for work, your neighbour can seduce you... so quitting a job does not help. Grow up.
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