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writes:Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles! I have a question about a boy. He’s friends with one of my housemates and last week he came to visit. I'm shorter than most people, just over 4 foot in height by the way. My housemate and me are like brother and sister and we look out for each other and he told me the boy had a girlfriend. I thought he was really good looking straight away but said nothing. I picked up the single vibe off him and I’m the kind of girl who would never go off with a guy who’s taken. He asked me to guess what age he was and pin pointed that he had no ring on. He proceeded to tell me personal stuff about him being a gymnast when he was younger and that he had to stop for his health and he proceeded to show me photos of his family and his id’s, which I think is really sweet in a guy to be truthful. Most guys I’ve chatted to would only joke and mess around but this guy was different. This guy was different though. He didn’t chat to any of the other girls as much. He wouldn’t talk about his girlfriend with my housemate which makes me suspect that she hurt him but when he got really drunk he kissed another girl and then my housemate stood up for him to somebody else saying he was a good guy deep down but was really drunk. When I was leaving at the end of the night he seemed bummed down that I was leaving. My question is did he like me or what is going on with him? He’s due to come back in three weeks time. Will he try something then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2013): A final word about players at parties. When they're drunk, they don't care what a woman looks like; they just want to get off. They pick the most vulnerable girl in the room, and she's the target for the night. He will blame it all on the alcohol.
There is a fact you seem to have overlooked. His girlfriend knows all his friends. Anyone at the party could be snapping pictures on their smartphones and sending them to her. She'll know each and every female that went for her man. She could just confront those women any place and anytime. She may not limit the blame on him. She doesn't have to be at the party to know what he's up to.
Don't even consider a guy who cheats. He did it to her, he'll do it to you.
Just a word to the wise.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (14 October 2013):
 Let me get this straight... This guy is supposed to have a girlfriend, but he didn't mention her at all in his visit. Then he was speaking to you and not to any other girls, but later at this party he kissed another girl?
Ok, if he has a girlfriend, but was chatting you up and kissed another girl, that makes him the cheating kind. Do you want to date someone like this? I wouldn't be able to trust them.
If he doesn't have a girlfriend, they've split up or whatever, if he likes you, why did he kiss a different girl to you, when you were the one chatting to him?
Finally, if he does really like you, we can't read his mind, you will have to just wait and see. Next time he comes around, chat to him as much as possible and try to find out his relationship status. You don't seem put off by him kissing another girl or having a girlfriend. If he's really single and kissing the girl was a drunken one off, then give him a chance and see what happens. If he really does have a girlfriend, I'd advise not trying anything, because if he can cheat on her he will cheat on you. Wait until he is single and then see what happens between you. You guys just met, give it time and get to know him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2013): He has a girlfriend and what evidence do you have that she is out of the picture? So he kissed another girl? What does that mean? He didn't kiss you. So any foolish girl was game. You were told he has a girlfriend, and you're ignoring the fact. I don't know why you mentioned your height. What does that have to do with anything? The fact he was nice to you in spite of your height, means he likes you?He was drunk and not fully in charge of his faculties. He might have been out for a one night stand. Don't judge people when under the influence of alcohol. That was the point your friend was making. You're quite petite. Are you ready to take on a pissed off girlfriend?Get a grip young lady. Don't let desperation get ahead of your better judgment. Drunk men are stupid. They say and do stupid things. He's taken, and you should respect that; or you're setting yourself up to get hurt.
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