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writes:I want sex but I want to stay a virgin. I still love my ex very much although he doesn't anymore. Should I look for a fck buddy or ask him to be my fck buddy? I'm afraid I'll get more bonded to him? What should I do??? Help! I'm 18.:( i m so confused. i want sex so badly butttt it's against my morals to sleep around. urghhhh dilemmaaaaaa
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 You don't want to lose your virginity to an ex who you love and still love, when he has moved on emotionally. Asking him to be a fuckbuddy would be a recipe for heartbreak for you. Imagine if he agrees to it, and you sleep with him. Imagine how you would feel. One way or another your feelings will develop for him. You sound like a good, genuine person so I really don't think you would be able to separate your feelings for your ex from the act of sex. I imagine you'd end up feeling closer to him and loving him more, whereas, he would just be taking advantage of your offer and your love for him. It would just be sex for him and he would move on without a tear if he met someone else in the process.
I know, I've had sex with guys I loved, an ex and someone I secretly loved who saw me as just a friend. I can honestly say, it is one the most painful experiences you can have in life, to love someone who doesn't feel the same, and to hope that the act of sex means as much for them as it does for you. Sometimes, especially for guys, it simply does not. I would not go down that road again, as hard as it is to walk away. In the end it will be less painful. And when you meet someone who will make love to you as a whole person, not just have sex with you because you are willing, it will be so much better and worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): If I were you I would wait. I agree w/Patio you will develope feelings for your ex if you go back to him. And more then likely he won't, you'l end up being the "F-buddy". And the end you'l feel low & may regret it.
It being your frist time is something special & you should want to be with someone special. Some one who has the same feelings as you do for them. So wait,trust me...you'll be glad you did.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (8 May 2010):
Its against your morals to sleep around.Dont do it.Its not impossible to remain a virgin until the right time.
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