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writes: I have a big problem, a few weeks ago I noticed a very cute boy at the library-looks wise he seems completely perfect for me. I soon realised he was attracted to me because he would always give me a smile when I would walk pass-due to the fact that it is the exam period I have spending lots of time in the library and he always notices if i am having a bad day or stressed-he'd come over and ask if i'm ok and make me feel better. I saw him the other day with a girl-holding hands-I then asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said he did-unfortunately! He said he wanted to break up with her and i told him to give me a call when he did which he said he would definitely do.I told him it was quite wrong for him to be flirting with other girl when he ahs a g/friend and he said the forbidden fruit is always sweeter. although he may sound like a not very nice person-i have really fallen for him...don' know what to do!!! should i ask him to go out as friends?Is it likely that he would want to?
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (16 May 2006):
 What you have to ask yourself is this...if he was your BF and he was in the library panting over another lady how would you feel? When I was at Uni. 'going to the library' really mean't 'going to the library to check out the cute boys'...well I never actually read any books in the library anyway ;-) I am sure he cannot be the only gorgeous bloke on your campus...I can understand why he would be a great distraction from your exam studies however as everything seems great when you are that bored (I know I have been there). Perhaps it is time to look for someone single and less likely to be a rat to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): Was he just being nice to you in the library, or was he flirting with the intention of wanting more than friendship with you?
With his comment about forbidden fruit, I would say it was the later.
I agree with the other reader - this guy is not BF material. You have done the right thing to be worried about this. Unfortunately, a lot of girls would not do the same and would have no problems being with a guy they know is in a relationship with someone else.
Wait until you find a guy that will give you 100% attention and who you trust would never be interested in chatting up other girls whilst being with you. Try and judge boys by your own standards; if you were with a guy - would you even think of chatting up other guys?
Good luck
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reader, willywombat +, writes (16 May 2006):
 I think you posted this before didn't you? If not I will tell you again - he is a cheat in the making! He is making cow eyes at you whilst his GF has no inkling what is going on.....and you think this guy is perfect BF material?
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