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writes:i have been on this site alot of times since i started dating the man i am now with. he is 69 years old and i am 65 years old. both of our spouses are deceased. my friend introduced us 3 years, and 9 months ago. I stay with this man almost all of the time because i have an apartment and i am very lonely. we get along good except for his grown married adult children. they are very jeaslous of me and since we got back together after breaking up for 2 months they will not include me in any of their activities but my family will always invite my man to every function my family has and even gives him christmas and birthday gifts. he does favors for my children also. (they are all married just as his kids are). his daughter wanted him to come to her house to have dinner with her, her bully husband, their 3 kids and her brother this past friday. he told them that he would come up there but would not eat. he never did go because i got upset because they have had nothing to do with me for over a year. then they wanted my man to take his grandson (their child) fishing this past saturday. the bully husband was going to because my man being older , they cannot trust the little boys safety with my man due to his age. this is crazy because my man (the childs grandfather ) still works and is very young in his looks and actions. well he told the bully that he could not go on saturday but he could do it sunday. the bully son-in=law got man and hung up on my man which is the bully's son-in-law. his daughter called yesterday and rung him out for all of this. she told him that i am very possessive. this was very funny because she is possessive. she said this because they want him to do for them exactly when they want him to. that is why they said i am possessive. he is most of the time with me.they truth of the matter is that they do not want him to have anyone since their mother passed away 7 years ago.he used to see them 6 nights per week for dinner and when i came into his life this changed to 2 to 3 nights per week. this whole family is so very dysfuntional including my man. i feel like he should have said to her when she made the possessive comment that even if i was, that is between me and him and that she has not business even concerning herself with this. please tell me what to do. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): I'm going through the same thing: his kids hate me. They are 23 and 25!' They are adults and my man treats them like they are 12 still. I've been with him for over a year and his kids have NEVER had a conversation with me!
It's to the point where I've decided to go away during the X-Mas holiday (i'm very depressed over this). He doesn't stick up for me. He doesn't lay down the law with them. He is 53 years old and I'm almost 40 (they have zero respect for someone they've never spent 5 min. getting to know).
I love him but I don't think I can take much more. I feel like I'm feeling this by myself; Like I'm all alone with this. Like it's my problem. I think my boyfriend is used to this chaos and might be immune to the pain.
God wouldn't it be easier just to move on from him and these rotten people? Don't I deserve better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): It can be hard to see one of your parents with someone else. However, his children should want him to be happy. You are right, he should have told his daughter that you being possessive or not isn't her business. I think you should ask your man to sit down with his children and tell them that they need to respect his relationship with you. He needs to tell them that they have to include you if they want to invite him to any family functions and that they are to treat you with respect. Good luck.
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reader, cool girl faye  +, writes (22 September 2008):
I dont know you and i dont know your man but i do know that you should talk to your man about this and ask him if he can tell his kids to leve you alone and ask him that to stand up for you more and be there for you when thay are being hash because it is not fair .
ps. the adut kids are wong to do that hope it all goes right in the end bye
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