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female
age
30-35,
*unk1111
writes:Iv been with my partner for nearly two years. Sometimes we have such a good time together and really get on! However we have other times when i can get really upset from him either looking at other woman or getting paranoid from his past. Sometimes he can be really comforting about it yet other times he can make me feel worst. He tells me certain things he likes about other womans bodies, what hes seen etc. Also he can be very agrresive and not very interested in what i have to say. Am i over reacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, kahlan +, writes (3 September 2009):
 No,i dont think you are over reacting.All guys check out other lassies,its natural.My partner does it without even realising he is doing it,But he sounds like a bully and it seems like he doesnt care what you think.Id be worried about the agressive behavour as well.Is the reason you are paranoid of his past behavour because he has cheated on you in the past?To actually tell you what he likes about other womens bodies in my opinion is just wrong.Some good times doesnt make up for the way he's treating you.It seems like he has no respect for you.I would have a serious talk with him,and tell him how he is seriously upsetting you and that if nothing changes you will leave.He's playing with your head.Ive been in a relationship where the guy played mind games,and it really messed me up.I actually found it being just as bad as being in a violent relationship.Its easy to say "Just leave him",but not at all easy to do, its not so much hes eyeing up other girls but his behaviour towards you thats worst.And if he has been violent(i apoligise if thats not what you meant,but he shouldnt be being aggressive at all)i wouldnt give him warning at all,but just leave.You deserve a relationship where the guy will respect you.Love Kahlan,X
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