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writes: Hi im a 25 yr old woman and 7 months ago i met my partner online but he was alredy in a long term relashonship we started to see each other after 3 days and 2 months later he finish his relashonship whit his ex and moved in with me but he still gose up to take her out he says if i ask him to stop goin to see her he would leve me, but it is killing my fealing for hem . what sould i do just grin and berr it (as he is the love of my life) or do i ask him to leve ????? pz help i need to now what to do :-(
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reader, MICY +, writes (2 August 2006):
Personally, I dont agree that if someone is in the midst of ending a relationship and starts seeing someone else, you could never trust that person. I myself, am guilty of that. I was dating this guy but I was not getting what I need out of the relationship and I met someone else. I dated them both for a little over a month then I let my ex go, realizing that my new relationship is way better. Im with that guy for almost three years now and never once thought about cheating on him. It depends on the level of feelings that you have as well. As far as him seeing his ex still, thats a different story. I would give him an ultimatum if he he still sees her, Id leave and realy walk away. See what he does after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): Ok, so you're with a man who was seeing another women for TWO months whilst you were also with him.
How can you seriously ever trust a person who can do that?
The fact he still sees this "ex" (if that is indeed what she even is) and that he gives you an unworkable ultimatum should be a MAJOR warning to you that this guy is a) not to be trusted, and b) is not commited to you in the way that you are to him.
Is he really the love of your life, or is it that you are too afraid to be alone? It seems to me your insecurities have completely clouded your judgement and you have mixed-up your unhealthy attachment to him with your confusion notion of love - any one with enough self-belief in themselves would not settle for the kind of relationship this man has offered you.
I would honestly be highly surprised if nothing sexual or intimate is going on with this other women, and I'd be even more surprised if he doesn't eventually do to you what he originally done to this so-called ex.
You deserve far, far better. You deserve someone who is 100% commited to YOU and YOU only. The longer you stay with this man, the more dependent you will feel on him and the more your self-belief and strength will diminish.
Don't allow him to walk out on you in months, or years, when you have already been completely emotionally devastated by him.
See this man for how he is and act whilst you still have the strength to do so.
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