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writes: I was with my boyfriend for a long time(nine years). He is in the military and I relocated to be with him here about four years ago. A year ago he was posted again. In the months up to the posting he pretty much rejected me even thought we were under the same roof. I had to intiate affectionate contact and he would get up and leave if I got on the bed beside him. I asked him about it and he said that he knew he would be leaving and was trying to wind down the relationship. He left about nine months ago to go to another posting and is now living with someone else. My problem is that I am trying to get over this but my support system and long term friends are not here and I am counting the days till I can get out of here. I have a good job and a few friends but still seem to be obsessed by my boyfriend and the hurt and anger I feel over being dumped in this way. I am trying to save enough money to go back where I came from but still wake up each morning and go to bed each night thinking about this man.It hurts and it is a waste of my time and energy to think about him so much but no matter what I do I am not getting over this. I have tried reaching out to others by doing volunteer work but not even that helps. Has anyone been in a situation like this and might be able to give their take on this situation. I am embarressed and tired of feeling like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2006): i am so sorry that happened to you. that's a terrible thing for him to do, and i know it must be so hard. i guess there really isn't much you can do at the current moment. maybe once you get out of there and back home, you can start to move on with your life, as you will have your support system there for you. but even then, the only thing you really can do is just take it day by day, and i promise eventually, the pain will fade. it might always hurt just a little, but you'll meet someone else and you'll be just fine. just take it slowly. eventually you'll realize that maybe one night a week, you didn't think about him before bed. and then that one night will turn into a handful. and then that handful will turn into rarely ever. and you never really notice the difference until one day, you'll look back and realize that you got over it. the best of luck to you! take care!
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