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writes:Two months ago i found out my partner of 4 years had been cheating on me. well not just cheating he actually fell in love with someone else.We had been living apart temporarily. things hadn't been going well financially so i moved back into my parents for a short period with our 4 month old daughter and he got a job working away.anyway on one of his weekly visits to see me it all came out. we had a night out, he got horribly drunk and told me he had been seeing a polish girl at his work. said he was in love with her and not with me. that was honestly the worst night of my life. to say i was devastated is an understatement.the weeks following that are a bit of a blur to be honest...although he did contact me severaltimes to say he was lying about loving her and wasn't even in contact with her anymore.deep down i knew that wasn't the case. but i wanted to believe him. it hurt less that way. so you can imagine my shock when i found out a month ago that he had went to poland. i hadn't heard from him in over a week.. so i phoned his work. they said he had been sacked and had went to see her in poland. well he's back now. he came back 3 weeks ago. the first thing he did was phone me and tell me what a huge mistake he had made. he's still denying he had feelings for her. says going to poland was a moment of madness. he just felt he had to get away when he lost his job. i know this isn't true.he's so depressed just now.. keeps begging me to give him another chance. so what do i do? deep down i know he loves me, but i think he's 'in love' with her and the very thought makes me sick to the stomach. he still denies it of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello..yep the general consensus is that he's blown his chance. and if i was to be honest i know there's no going back.just to complicate the whole situation.. i've been in touch with the other woman. i was given her number by his work. i've just text her a couple of times. she basically said that she never knew about me at the beginning and that they were no longer in contact.I do believe now that he does regret what he did and does love me. But is that enough?he's pulling out all the stops to try and get me back.. but its probably only because he can't have her.i found out he booked the flight to Poland on the 7th of October the day before i found out so it wasn't 'on a whim' it was pre-planned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Hi,
i am same predicament. My advice leave him my partner does this as well always the sorry I love you bit at the end of the day if they are checking out others this seriously there is something not right with your relationship.
I have had enough now and I am giving his marching orders if you take him back it will be fine......
until next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Oh god. Girl, please be stronger than this. You really need to cut all contact with this guy immediately. I mean who cares if he "loves you." Tell him to go to hell ten times over. And don't answer his calls. Don't anything. Be a bitch. Respect yourself. He deserves NOTHING from you. And you deserve nothing better than to banish him from your life.
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