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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and our sex life has changed. We used to have sex all the time. Now it is once a week or once every two weeks. I know he loves me. I have been unemployed for a while now and he works in construction that wears him down. I try to do things at home to make his life easier. Such as making him dinner and bringing it to him in bed, making his lunch, doing his laundry, paying the bills, etc. I ask him what the problem is and he says it's him and not me and that he is just too tired. He also said he doesn't like to initiate sex. The only time he does is when he is drinking. I love him very much and all other aspects of the relationship are good. We very rarely argue and if we do it gets resolved except for this. We respect one another deeply. It has been a while too though since I have made any attempts to dress up or anything like that for fear of rejection. Can you help, and tell me where the problem lies and how to fix it?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 December 2007):
 From your post, it seems there are no problems at all between you two. It also seems he never rejects your advances, even if he doesn't initiate unless he's under the influence. So, it's difficult to even guess what can be going on. Maybe he's telling the truth about being tired. Or, he wants to be sure you want it, so he waits for you to initiate the relationship. Maybe there's a problem, but not any related to you, or maybe there is nothing but tiredness. It doesn't seem like there are any hidden issues here.
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