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My partner is constantly on sex chat websites! It tears me up inside. But am I wrong to feel this way?

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Question - (25 January 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 25 January 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *iesel185 writes:

I practically Live with my partner been together about 4 months. He's constantly on these sex chat websites sending pictures and msgs to other people. Its tearing me up inside. He says he loves me and i believe him but this is tearing me up inside ... Am i wrong?

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A female reader, Nikita United Kingdom +, writes (25 January 2007):

Nikita agony auntI hope you can sort this out and make him see how much he's hurting you. good luck x

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A male reader, diesel185 United Kingdom +, writes (25 January 2007):

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diesel185 agony auntthanx for the advice i will talk to him its for the best and if he cant see reason and i do then theres a problem somewhere ... thanks for your answers.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007):

Practically lived and four months...sound like you put more meaning on your relationship status then the BF so this in itself will cause friction.

Ever thought to just talk to him and lay it all out on the table?

Obviously he believes it is okay to be with someone and doesn't consider it emotionally damaging, neglectful, or inconsiderate to still be on porn sites and chats sites.

Maybe your silence enables him.

You aren't wrong...and in his mind...neither is he.

Time to have a discussion and explain to him what you think a loving, giving, responsive, trusting adult relationship is and what you would like and expect from him and what you are willing to be and give for him.

TALK. LISTEN.

Best Wishes.

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A female reader, Nikita United Kingdom +, writes (25 January 2007):

Nikita agony auntI dont think you're wrong to feel this way. id feel the same and i agree with Pete. I think its cheating. he may well view what he's doing as normal and not a part of how he feels for you but as its hurting you so much he should respect you feelings and stop this if he loves you but I have to say that my view of love does not include this so his interpretation of it is wrong. If he wont give this up then give him up. xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007):

Are you wrong? Hmm. Personally, I'd class that as cheating, so I'd feel exactly the same as you.

People in relationships have to set their own boundaries of what is and what isn't acceptable.

Are you sure your boyfriend "loves" you in the way that you love him? I think not.

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