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My partner has not wanted sex ever since I had a baby.

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Question - (9 February 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

okay ive been with my man for over a year now. when we first got together we had a great sex life! about 6 months ago right after we had a baby he never wants to have sex, he always has excuses.. and it really hurts i feel like he dosent find me sexy anymore, whats the deal.. when i try and talk to him about he blows me off and says stop trying to start a fight.. what do i do to get him to want me and start showing me affection?

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A female reader, breathe United States +, writes (9 February 2010):

Well I am pregnant right now with my first child and I've been fearing the same thing, but my girlfriend told me something that helped her and her boyfriend...After she had the baby she did kegels religiously (for fear of never getting that pre-baby vagina back) and did her best to get in shape.

DON'T misunderstand me, your man should be supportive of your post-baby body. After all, he helped create that...But, try spicing it up. A new baby can confuse a man, who's now torn between seeing you as his sex goddess and the mother of his child. Remind him of that great sex that made this baby in the first place. If you can find someone to watch the baby for the night, seduce him girl! Candles, oil, the works. Oral sex never hurts either...Just know that you are the sexy, confident woman he couldn't keep his hands off, and he'll remember it too.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010):

Maybe the relationship wasn't ready for a baby, and he isnt mature enough? He sounds cranky. You need to be able to talk about why he doesnt want sex with you. Does he love you? Or did you get pregnant by accident and he has just stuck around out of courtesy? Did you have sex while you were pregnant?

Talk to him about this, and dont stop just because he doesnt want to talk about it! If he can't deal with this in a mature manner then maybe he's not the one for you.

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