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writes:my partner and i own equal shares in our home at 50% each...when i moved in i had put up a large sum of money into the property, approx 70k, which covered the extention works carried out. it took nine months to get my name on the deeds of the property, which were the worst 9 months of my life as up until then, i could have been kicked out along with my 3 teenage children at any time. although my partner had made a will covering me if anything happened to him...he changed this will, apparently just after the deeds were altered and my name was added.a few weeks later, i got a knock on my door from his one and only daughter. the conversation was..'hello, i thought you should know, my dad has changed his will leaving everything to me...dont worry, i dont want your house, i just want the money'.can anyone correct me, as i believe this was done out of sheer spite for me and to cause problems..which of course it did and along with other things she has done over the past 7 years, which included calling me a golddigging slag when she heard that we had become engaged, disowning her dad but when that didnt work, she then refused to acknowledge me. our relationship has now ended. our house was only a 3 bed cottage worth 115k when i met him and now only worth 210k after 7 years so it is not that he had a mansion, and before i moved in, i owned a 4 bed house which i sold for 120k but after paying of my morgage had 75k left hence the 70k investment.he had a morgage on his property of 53k.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Ah, well on that question i would say that you are right in thinking that she doesn't act very good towards you. I would have felt very upset too, to have her come rubbing it up my face like that! I'm sure she did it only to provoke you.
I'm glad you're taking care of the financial business in between you and the man already now to prevent it from one day being an issue in between you and the daughter.
I'm sorry though if you two broke up because of his daughters doings. It seems very sad to me. Maybe he is not strong enough to stand up to his right to independency towards his daughter, some parents can have this issue with their adult children. It should be his problem though, not yours.
I hope you will come to a closure with this man both emotionally and financially, and be able to walk away to a better life without the two of them. Keep your head up and keep your integrity by not letting the daughter get to you too much! You are not in the wrong here and you do not have to defend yourself towards her.
Best wishes and good luck to you!
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reader, 1littleduck +, writes (3 December 2008):
1littleduck is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, so sorry, my partner is alive and kicking...I know she has no claim on my half of the property, I simply wanted to know if I was right in saying that she went out of her way to tell me deliberatly to cause trouble...which she has done not just on that occasion but all through our relationship!
We are now selling the property, the relationship has now ended, he still loves me and I him, but I cant take anymore of her! and I have advised him he should move away from his daughter as she will never let him settle with anyone as she seems to think that all people are after his money...regardless of what they contributed to the home.
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reader, Oblivia +, writes (3 December 2008):
I'm sorry but I must ask; did your partner pass away or not? When reading your post it looks like he hasn't? If I got it right, then I don't really understand how his daughter can claim anything at all already now?
You should be safe regarding the daughter and if your relationship with your partner has ended, I would advice you to find a solicitor and sort this financial mess up with him before anything happens to him. To hire a solicitor (or barrister?) would make it easier both to see all legal possibilities and obstacles as well as giving you the relief of not having to deal with your ex partner and his daughter on your own.
I hope this was of some help and I wish you all the best so that you can live peacefully again. And if I got all this wrong, don't hesitate to say so and give more details.
Good luck!
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