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writes: I am 45, my partner 53. We have been together off and on for 8 years (he would not commit).I got tired of waiting and met someone else. He begged me to go back to him and move in, which I did. He also asked me to marry him. I have always got on with his two daughters, 17&18, so he arranged a short break for us all, but just before going he said he couldn't marry me because he said he wouldn't do it again. Also his first marriage ended because he had a long affair with his mother in law.I was devastated and didn't go on the holiday. The girls think it was because I don't like them. We told them it's not them. They are verbally abusive to me and my partner won't defend me because of guilt, and the ex wife says he can't go to his girls' birthdays, weddings etc if he doesn't do as she says.He says we can't act as if nothing's wrong when I try to live my life. We have no social life and I feel very lonely especially when the three of them go out. He, his ex mother in law & ex wife all "get on" and I feel like the bad person in all this. Please any advice.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (18 July 2005):
Im sorry but I think the best thing you can do is get out of this relationship.
It doesnt sound like a nice situation to be in at all and i dont think things will change.
If you want to try again, set down firm (but fair) ground rules for him to follow and make it clear you wont stand for anything less.
Personally, he doesnt sound worth the effort.
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reader, genuine +, writes (18 July 2005):
I really can't beleive I just read that. What in the world are you doing still with this creep? Whatever the reasons they are not worth it. You have lost 8 years of your life, and if its up to him you will lose 25 more. He doesn't respect or love you. I know that is harsh, but it's the truth. Please get away from him and enjoy what is left of your life. There is someone special out there waiting for you to wake up and realize you are better than that. Don't let them drag you through their mud any longer! You deserve better and you should have more self respect than to sit by and take it any longer.
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