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writes: My partner of over 3 years disregarded my feelings and treated me with no respect, throughout the last 4 months of pregnancy. Two weeks ago he finally admitted the truths about the times he would go missing for hour, which left me feeling stressed and confused. He admitted to going to peek clubs, and contacting swinger clubs intending to bring me 8 months pregnant. He says he will put 100% into us now.I feel he still isn't making an effort to make this work. Should I give this one more go or get out as I'm only in for heartache? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (6 August 2005):
 After being with someone for 3 years, you should know if they are being sincere or not. YOu were pregnant and well he disrespected you I think by going to those places...but that is just my opinion. It is good that he admitted it and wants to make amends towards it...but what is your intuition on that. I trust firmly a woman's intuition...If you feel he may not be makinng an effort...then call him up on it. Remember though that you have a kid together now and whatever you do reflects on that kid. If you want to give it one more go...forgive him and move on ...not recalling it at anytime...Follow your heart hun....pray about it and follow your heart. Congrats on the new baby..ana
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reader, starrybutterfly +, writes (5 August 2005):
As hurt as you are right now, you must also think about your child. Try and rebuild your relationship-talk to him about your continuing insecurities, and try to make it work. Remind yourself of why you love him.
However, if you still feel he isn't there for the family after a while, it may be best to separate. You and your baby are the most important things in your life, and if he doesn't treat you both the way you deserve, then you're probably better off without him.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (5 August 2005):
I think if I had been in your situation, i would have ended the relationship straight away.
However, with a baby on the way you need to ask yourself if you could forgive your partner and give him one last chance.
Make it crystal clear that nothing like this is ever to happen again or you will end the realtionship. If he respects your feelings, this is the least he could do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2005): only you can know how you feel about this. although you may be feeling very hurt and confused at the minute you have to decided if this relationship is going to work. your partner admitted to you that he was going to these clubsand said that he wants to put 100% into your relationship now but you cant stay with someone who you no longer trust and if you feel you are only going to get more heartache
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