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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Its been 7 years since I lost my true love. all because of relgious and cultural differances. you would think this would stop us from seeing each other not to mention other things that we still engage in. i wasnt raised to be this type of woman however i cant help feeling that he was taken from me and that we didnt have a chance to be together. as soon as his family knew that we had started dating well lets say they took matters in their own hands and arranged an arrange marriage. this upset not only me but him as well. he admits that i am in his heart and nothing will ever change that. sometimes i think that we have been through so much abuse that i dont recognize myself or him at all. he has been married for 6 years now and has 2 children. i cant seem to keep a relationship as i always think of what we shared. havent found 1 person that can make me forget my ex. i asked him how on earth he does it, and his response is "its like work, a duty" nothing more and nothing less. Really???!!!!!! i wasnt raised to believe this but how do i let go? i meet amazing guys and a first have a great relationship and most woman would dream of such relationships or respect from their men. my friends tell me i have to let go but i feel like i cant. he cant either. he will make every effort to come and see me. always making an effort to see me. i even confronted his wife in person. she knows how he loves me but she is a victim in all this as well. she is just following her culture and duties.sometimes i lie to him and say im out of town for a few weeks just so i can have peace of mind knowing i wont see him. this cant go on forever and i need help. i want to meet someone else and have a family. have a baby....my clock is ticking... im not getting younger. should i just settle and pretend like him???? at the end, i will have children who will love me, a respectful marriage!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): "should i just settle and pretend like him???? at the end, i will have children who will love me, a respectful marriage!"
"Respectful" marriage? No bleeping way. He's making a travesty of the vows he took to enter into a sacred institution.
His kids will hate him for life once they get old enough to figure out Dear Old Sperm Donor has been cheating on their mother all along, the same way your kids will hate you if you follow ball-less bf's example. Believe me, I have friends in their 50's and 60's who want nothing to do with philandering parents (both male and female) decades after the fact. Their loyalty is strictly to the other parent who was always there for them.
"How do I let go of him?"
Get a vibrator, then you'll have something better to open your legs for than that loser and it won't give you a load of BS like he's been slinging.
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