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writes: I have no doubts that my boyfriend cares for me, we are both happy together and spend alot of time together, however, even being almost 17 my parents refuse to allow us to be alone or even accept the fact we are sexually active.this has resulted in him not even being aloud in my room! i want my parents to accept it!how?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): wow this must be a lot easier for guys lol. I had my gf over and she just turned 16 (legal age of consent) Im 17 and we watched a movie at my house my parents were home that is her parents rule that there are adults wherever we go which is fine with me and it turns out my parents are awesome when it comes to me having a girl over. they went back to there room and went to bed haha. so it was just her and myself in my room but my parents have extreme trust in me with everything which took a lot of physical work and time. anyway we didn't really do much made out a little and she got on my bed and I was like god your so amazing and it was my best high school memory so far to have her with me.My brother walked in when she was sitting on my lap and the lights were dimmed but nothing was really going on and he was cool with it.Its all about trust so I would say you have to prove to them that nothing will happen if he comes over. Also they need to see that he is a good guy who will take care of you and for me personally parents love me because most girls I know aren't allowed to drive with most other guys but I am trusted I guess.good luck
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (21 March 2011):
If you want your parents to accept it, and accept you, you need to have a conversation with them. You have a point of view to put across, and they will have a point of view too. You need to listen to theirs as much as they need to listen to yours.
This is an opportunity for you to take a step into adulthood by having a potentially difficult adult conversations. You will discover how adult your parents are able to be too. They might find it hard to talk about, but if you want to be having sex like an adult, you need to be able to talk about it like one with the people who matter the most, don't you agree?
Good luck.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Almost 17, and you expect your parents to allow you private time together? You're living under their roof. If they don't condone what you're wanting to do, then it's entirely right that they don't give you the space to do it.
If you want to have sex in your room, then you need to have a full and frank discussion with your parents about it. You're underage. Your parents are trying to keep you safe by preventing it. If they don't want that going on in their home, then good on them. Unless you can convince them that it's a good idea, then you're out of luck.
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