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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi,,I am in love with the most amazing guy ever. We started off as friends but our feelings both grew until we eventually confessed our love to each other and decided to go for it.we are both muslims but from different cultural tribes. Most people tend not to marry into different tribes in my country, but althogh my mother is fine with it, i am sure my dad is agaist it. He also claims he's sure his families wont approve.A short while later his attitude towards me changed and he seemed down. I soon found out that he was worried about the future. He was worried both our families would not approve and we would end up heartbroken. He claimed it was pointless to get in a relationship with no future; and suggested we break up. At the time i was worried he did so because he didn't love me, but then realise he only did what he did because he loved me and didnt want me to get hurt in the future. He still asks about me from time to time and i can still sense his feelings towards me. He never was the direct type and was always scared of making the first move. He has a shy personality and is always scared of being rejected.No body knows about our realtionship, especially not out parents. But i do not want to live the rest of my life wondering what could have happened had i risked it again to try and make it work with him.what should I do? i was thinking about slowly hinting/suggesting we go for it again, this time confronting our parents. But i am not sure?
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 The fact is your father will never approve of this relationship even though your mother might. You should think about it for a few more weeks before doing anything. Is money the issue here? That's the feeling I'm getting. If money is the issue, you will have to approach things differently. If the problems are based on religious beliefs or something like that, as I say, think about it for a few more weeks. And just hope for the best. It's hard to tell you specifically what to do. It's your life. Good luck with it.
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