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writes:I'm 15 and have been talking to a 19 year old guy for about 3 months. (yes I really do know him). My mom and dad found out, and their making me stop talking to him, or they'll file a police report, since he's over aged. What do I do? I'm really depressed after not talking to him for 4 days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): There is very little difference between a 15 and 19 year old. Four years. That is less than a blip on the radar in the scheme of things.My own elder sister was 14 and dating an 18 year old a long tome ago, and even then he was one of the nicest people I have ever met. They broke up, eventually, but it was a clean break... they remained friends for a long time afterwards.Then again, you are in the U.S. and they are notoriously uptight about these things over there. Most any country expects this from teenagers. In fact most countries would allow you to sleep with whoever you want from 16 onwards because if you can't make simple decision like that by that age, then just give up because life gets way harder.But more to the point... they can ATTEMPT to press charges and unless there is even the slightest evidence anything sexual has ever happened, they have no leg to stand on here. It would be laughed out of the Police station, let alone make it to court.If you ARE doing anything sexual... then stop. Whilst I have no moral issues with two teenagers going at it... it's nature, it cannot be stopped, it is unwise given the puritanical viewpoint of your country.Plus they are your parents and deserve your respect, and at the same time they now need to earn it. You are not a child who needs to be commanded to do so. You are a young adult.Sit them down and discuss it like civilised people. Ask them why they dislike him, not having ever met the guy. If nothing sexual is going on, then assure them of this and tell them you expect them to believe you and if they don't then that is their problem, not yours.They CANNOT control who you see when you are outside of their house. Nor can they really control who your friends are. They can only control who you interact with in their presence and try to advise you.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): If I were you I would focus on schooling, I hope your parents does press charges against him because he should be ashamed of himself messing around with a 15 yr old still in high school. Once he become a Registered Sex Offender, he will be restricted from where he can live, some neighborhood will not allow him to live in their
neighborhood, his life will be screwed up forever, evertime he move he will have to report that address. If you're in love with him that much then I would just wait until I turn 18, do you have transportation to visit him in jail? Because a 15 year old girl is a jail bait for a 19 year old.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2012):
 you stop seeing him!
he will GO To JAIL.
he will be FOREVER registered as a sex offender.
He will NOT get jobs or go to school or better his life EVER
there is a huge difference between a 19 yr old man and a 15 yr old girl.
IF you guys are "true love" in 3 years you will be 18 and he will be 22 and then it will be ok....
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