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writes:This isnt a sex or love question, but i could use some advice.I recently just moved to a different state, leaving my friends behind. I hate it here.I'm almost 16, and my parents agree that I can go live with my best friend back in Adelaide.But I don't know whether I can live without my parents...I know it seems stupid to go back for my friends, my old life, and you'll probably just say "You will make new friends", but its been my home for 10 years, and my friends there are pretty much family, imagine having to leave your home, and loved ones....Well anyway..Should I stay or should I go?Thanks soo much!
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reader, deqwan  +, writes (26 October 2008):
Yo babe, Just go. There are many ways 2 keep in contact with people. Also you are rite, you will miss them but not of you keep d friendship going. You will meet new friends also. Life can be fun, make the most of it. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): My parents did the same thing to me, in between my jr and sr years of high school (grades 11 and 12 - was 17). They gave me the option of staying behind (so I could graduate from h/s with my friends), but they didn't give that option to my brother (who was b/w his freshman and soph yrs, age 15).
My brother made loads of new friends at the new high school, and I don't think he was ever too bothered by the move. He stayed in touch with his closest friends from our old town, and lost touch with the rest, but it was fine b/c he really did make new friends.
I, on the other hand, chose to go w/ my parents, and I never did adopt that new town. I was only there for about 9 months before I left for college. It wasn't long enough to make any real friendships. And then I lost most of my friendships in the old town, b/c it was just hard to keep up w/ them. So I don't really have many childhood friends that I still keep up with, which was hard when I started college and everyone else could go home for the holidays and meet up with friends.
On the other hand, since my parents stayed in the new town after my brother left for college, it was much better for him that he'd moved w/ them and made friends there, b/c then, when he went home on breaks, he *did* have childhood friends to meet up with. That sort of thing grounds you in a way that you can't appreciate now but later will.
So, based on my own personal experience, I would say it depends on what the school system is like where you live. If you're going to be finished in the next year or so, it might be worth staying where you are and visiting your parents often -- you'd be moving away for college most likely, anyway, right? If not, I'd say go w/ your parents and treat it as the first of many adventures as you're coming into your adult life. The one thing that moving at such an awkward time did for me that was great is it made me ready to try a lot of other things (like traveling alone in south america, interviewing for jobs i wanted but wasn't really qualified for, etc.) that might otherwise have scared me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Ok hun, first - have to say something. Even though this choice is hurting you, I would have given anything for it at 11. We had moved from New York to Tennessee, and I never got over it.
I'm 19 now, and I still call New York home.
Anyway...this is going to be very hard for you to choose but you need to talk it over with both your parents and your friend's parents back in Adelaide.
Follow your heart hun. I know this is hard for you but you need to figure out what you want to do.
Hope you get this figured out, hun. Good luck!!!!
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