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writes:So, I really need some help! I'm 15 and the guy I was seeing before is 18. We started talking about a month and a half ago and then we dated for about 2 weeks which it ended about a week ago. Well, my parents were perfectly fine with it at first then some things happened (we didn't do anything sexually) and they made me break up with him and now I'm not even allowed to be friends with him and that kills me. My last relationship I was in, lasted for 2 years and I was in love and thought I would never find anyone ever again after we broke up. But, I did. He's 18 and I know since I'm 15, my parents can tell me I have to stay away from him and there's nothing I can do about it but it really hurts me and I'm soo upset.When is it going to be legal for me to be with him or hang out with him without my parents being involved and telling me no? I need to figure this out because I'm really upset about this. :( Any advice is helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): You can try but it won't work. There is absolutely, categorically no way that you and he would be willing to wait 3 years. None. The sexual tension would build up, it would be agony and you would sneak off together eventually.
Your relationship is illegal OP and your parents are very against it, next time he won't get off with a caution, next time you and he get frisky he'll become a registered sex offender.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers. A lot had happened and my mom found out that we made out in his bedroom and that he had my shirt off and all. And, she called the police and a bunch of stuff is going on.I was actually going to wait until things calm down and try to sit down and talk to them about just being friends with him and being allowed to hang out around where people can see us and just wait until I am 18 to be with him if the feelings for him are still there. Would that be a good idea?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): 18. OP you don't specify what happened but you should think carefully about those things because your parents may have valid reasons for this. You know they don't mind you having a boyfriend because you had one for 2 years so whatever happened must have been pretty bad if your parents won't even allow you to talk to him.
You have to put this one down as a loss but seriously consider their reasons for this they may see something you have missed and are probably only trying to protect you. OP this guy is gone and it's better that he stays gone, with your parents so vehemently against this and depending on which state you live in it could take 3 years before you're legally able to do even the most minor of sexual things. Literally you'd only be legally able to kiss him for 3 years if he was to touch your boob even once your parents can him charged and convicted of a sex crime. If they don't like him this much then I would think they would be more than willing to do that to keep him away from you. A relationship with this guy is just not possible.
Again though consider their reasons carefully. You may not think them fair but they most likely have your best interests at heart and are not trying to make you unhappy but to ensure you're long term happiness.
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (24 April 2011):
 18...But it's going to be pretty much while you live under their roof. I moved out and supported myself at 18 for that very reason!! Good luck..
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reader, seniorfreshy14 +, writes (24 April 2011):
technically, the only age your free is 18. i think what your best bet would be is discuss what happened with your parents. don't fight or yell, just sit them down and talk it out. if that doesn't work, maybe you need to forget about him. you may have really liked him but maybe your parents were just trying to help you! look at there perspective and then talk it out with them. don't just jump down on them.
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