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writes:A month or so ago me and my bf had sex for the first time, we used a condom, but it broke, and now i am pregnant. I am 17 and he is 26 and I have talked to him about it and he is very supportive. We were planning to get pregnant after i turned 18 and we got married, so we are planning to keep it. In my state the age of consent is 18 so it is technically illegal for him to have had sex with me, but i am the one who wanted to lose my virginity to him that night and he was the one who went along with it. my parents like him, but im worried about what they'll think and say or even if they may press charges against him. please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): Yeah, your parents need to deal with it. If they felt you were ready to date a guy his age in the first place, then you're ready to deal with the consequences of your actions. And if they were fine with him before you were pregnant, they can't start reneg-ing on the deal now that something has happened.You've been treated as an adult in this situation up until now. He didn't "do this to you," you were consenting to have sex too. Don't let your parents forget that.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (6 June 2008):
 At this point, what are your options? You obviously can't hide the pregnancy forver and running away will just make things worse.
You know your parents well. If they like him and accept that he is 26 dating their daughter that is only 17, then it would seem unreasonable that they would want to press charges on him.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Hi,
the age here in Australia is 16 as it is in the U.K ( I'm pretty sure ) so I have some sympathy for your boyfriend. And 17 is mature enough I believe for a girl to make a decision without it being abuse.
But you live in a state where the law is the law. Your boyfriend is going to have to suffer the consequences for his actions if your parents tell the authorities.
In any event, it is not just your parents you have to worry about is it? Surely doctors, hospital staff, care workers anyone involved with you will know you were underage when you got pregnant.
I guess at some stage he has got to face the music, and I know things in America have grown rampantly hysterical when it comes to values over sex, so he may be in trouble.
good luck
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