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writes:Okay, so I went to this camp, Habitat for Humanity, and I met the greatest guy. He's sweet, caring, and we have ALOT in common. He really likes me, and he is dealing with my emotional baggage and all my other problems and faults.The only problem is, while im 13, he's 16. He's NOT interested in sex, but everyone who i tell about the relationship is pretty judgemental... and in truth, i can deal with that. It's really more of an issue that my PARENTS dont approve; at all. so its like, a secret relationship. He goes to my school's high school, but i usually dont see him that often. we talk over IM and stuff, but idk...i dont really know what to do. any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): He's a 16 year old guy. Trust me... he's interested in sex. Very interested.Maybe not enough to de-flower you (and in my hormone-soaked youth I would never have done that to a girl your age) but trust me his body is practically forcing him into wanting to hump anything his penis will fit into.Best avoid the kid until his, and your own, hormones are in check once again. And by then both of you will be physically ready hump the night away whenever you can get it.You are only young once. But you will also have to live with the consequences for the rest of that life and thats no way near as easy as it seems from your vantage point.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): Because it's not right. Just wait till your 16 and you look back at all these 13yr old kids, you will be thankful your parents cared enought to warn this boy off.
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reader, doe44 +, writes (6 September 2008):
You are only 13. You are too young to already want a male partner. A male partner will do sex with you for sure. Yeahhhhhhhhh and because your body is so young you are at risk for cancer inside your kouchi kouchi YEAAAAAAAAAAAand love has a way to come and go. After he loves you and take you , you will be all alone searching for another one to take you. Wait for a while, listen to your parents., start late so that you do not have a trail of dogs that have done you by the time you are 19. Hopefully you will not have sexual diseases. You think you know it all hein......you want to play grown up hummmmmmmmm.. You will find out for sure. You will regret not listening to your mom. that 16 years old after he has you will want a new fresher one. And-- You will be discarded.
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reader, ItsEmma +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I really don't think you should be dating a sixteen year old when you're that young.... I remember when I was thirteen, and mind, I was pretty mature for my age then, but now that I look back on it I was in a farrr different mindset than what I am now. I think that when you're in your teenage years, your mind develops so fast that it's hard to sustain a relationship with someone, sometimes even two years older than you. If you wait until you're a bit older, and still feel the same way, talk to your parents about it then.~Emma
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 The worst thing that you can do is sneak around behind your parent's backs. If they ever find out, you could lose their trust. Start showing them how responsible you can be by telling them about your boyfriend. If they react by telling you that you can't date him, try comprimise. Suggest that you have him over for dinner, and maybe your parents will see what a great guy he is. Start being politer to your parents and do jobs around the house without being asked. Hopefully, your parents will notice the effort you are making and allow you to date this guy. Best wishes.Bendy xxPS:It's good that you don't care what other people say. The absolute worst thing you could do is threaten your relationship because others don't approve.
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