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writes: help i am nearly 18 and i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and and my parents are still overly protective. they wont let me sleep at his or him sleep at mine and tehy wont let us go on a little overnight stay away from home. i am starting to feel really agitated and down about this. all my friends can go away with their boyfriends and sleep at their houses but i cant and its really annoying. im an adult next week and they still ont let me grow up, they dont treat me like an adult. why is this its not like i want to have sex with him and make babies we just want to fall asleep in eachothers arms and wake up together. Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (11 November 2006):
Well, I guess you could get your own place then you could do what you liked but that costs money and brings responsibilities like bills. Regardless of age it's 'their house, their rules'. I know you think you're an adult next week but when you say 'all my friends get to do it!' that's not really very mature. sueh has given good advice below about discussing the situation with them. I know you have a very romantic image of spending the night together but your parents are looking out for you. Do they have a good relationship with your boyfriend? If not, work on improving that too.
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reader, jng23 +, writes (11 November 2006):
it's only one more week until you can be making your own decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2006): Im sorry to say this but if you still live at home you are still under their roof and thier rules. Have you actually sat down with them as adults and talked the situation through, or have you whined at them like a child and told them its not fair cause everyone else is doing it. Have you talked openly with your mom about the type of relationship you want with your b/f or are you just expecting them to understand. If you want to be treated as an adult you must act like an adult and respect what they advise. Maybe they dont want you to be hurt and they dont feel its the right thing for you to do, because at the end of the day they have had alot more life experience than you. In thier eyes you are still thier little girl and always will be and its only natural to protect your chldren from any thing that they class as harm. Ask them to sit down with you explain your side ask them to trust you and be honest with them on how you feel also get some sort of birth control so they can see that you have concidered all possibilities when they see that you are mature enough to ask thier advse you may have thier blessing but if you dont get the answer you are looking for be an adult about it and understand their reasons.
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reader, pretty_girl_UK +, writes (11 November 2006):
You might not be ready for it and your parents might sense that. You have your whole lives ahead of you so why hurry. Sometimes the waiting game can be very nice. And to be honest at 18 you're still quiet young by any regards. And one more question: how does bf see this ? Is he anxious about it ? Does he put pressure on you ?
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