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*irlwithallsmiles
writes:When I was in elementary school...moreso around kindergarten, first grade era, I had a boyfriend. You know how kids that age always say they have a boyfriend/girlfriend and switch every week. Well mine lasted from the time I was 5 until I was almost 6. I always remember little things about him. He ended up moving and I actually moved close by him about 12 years later. We had a breif relationship and it ended and then 5 years later, we ran into each other and started dating again. It was like love at first sight. He ment the world to me and I him. I am a big fan of myspace and I always talked to my friends through it. He went on my page one day and saw the comments I had left for other people (guys) saying I love you and I think about you all the time...but it was just joking and not serious. But he took it serious anyways. I told him I had nothing to hide so I gave him my passwords to my email address and myspace page and he found more things along those lines. One of which was an email I sent my gay friend showing a picture of his private area so that he could tell me if it was circumcized or not. This did not go over well and my boyfriend and I fought constantly after that. After being together for five months and all of this happening...I finally had enough so I started to talk to him in regards to our relationship getting better. The next day, he saw that I was on yahoo instant messenger and that I blocked him and he freaked out. He called me terrible names and broke up with me. I told my parents and they do not approve of him anymore and my best friend has never approved of him. He and I have talked things out and I love him with all of my heart and I"m not ready to let this relationship go and neither is he. He told me that he loves me but the only way that we can be together is if my parents and my friends like me and he put me on a mission to make them like him...but I don't know how to do that!! What should I do?
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reader, girlwithallsmiles +, writes (21 April 2007):
girlwithallsmiles is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. I know that it will just take time and its really hard if I bring up his name and my friends say they hate him and tell me to stop talking to him. Unfortunately, he keeps changing his mind. I tried talking to him the next day after our talk and he said that he has alot on his plate and he needs time, but he's not even talking to me during this time. I am trying to give him the time he needs, but its so hard when all I want to do is see him and talk to him. I believe that he is doing things to keep me off of his mind to get over me so I am beginning to believe that I shouldn't fight for him.
After he had broken up with me, he tried to get back together with me for about a month and I told him that I just needed time away from him. I didn't think it would take long but I needed some time and everyday he freaked out if we didn't talk. Now he's treating me the same way that I treated him. I guess its just fair but I don't know how much of this I can take. I care so much about him that I'm willing to fight for our relationship and all he can say now is where was this fight before you told me goodbye?
So now I'm even more lost. I don't understand why he wants to walk away when it was not even a week since I had last talked to him and told him that I needed time and that if he can't understand that then we can't be together. So I said goodbye and not even a week later there's to much going on in his life for me. Its weird
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 April 2007):
 YOU can't make them like him so don't even try. He's got to show them what a great guy he is on his own, and it may take time. There nothing else but time on this kind of thing. But quite honestly if you are happy they should be happy for you. Next time you two have a squabble don't bad mouth him to your friends and family, that isn't nice nor is it any of their business.
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